Rsvp

[otheila]

Does anyone ever do this? I thought it was pretty much a have to. A friend had a b-day party for her son 15 invited 6 showed . She did have a RSVP on the card and no one contacted her ( I did but it doesn't count I talk to her a couple times a day). I am getting ready to do the invites for dd's party and wondering if I should include this. I really need to know how many are showing up. Would it be too rude if I phoned to see if they are actually coming? I don't want to go and get the stuff for 30 kids and 10 show up. If the weather is bad I understand or sickness I understand but I don't understand the rudeness of not letting anyone know if you are coming are not. Arghhh another pet peeve bad manners or I'm too old fashioned.

[Crafty Amanda]

I agree that it's rude, but I also have noticed that as time goes on, it seems that people just don't do this anymore.

I don't think it would be rude of you at all to call. Here's what a friend of mine wrote:

PARENTS: I need to shop for party supplies on Monday, so please be sure to call or email me and let me know if your child will be able to attend as I will only be purchasing for those I hear back from! Thanks!

My son received a party invitation about a month ago and I did RSVP I feel better now that I did. LOL

[tanz]

I consider it actually very inconsiderate and rude to NOT rsvp. Adults or for kid oriented events.
Make the phone calls (unfortunately)and just happen to mention you had not heard back and you were wondering if they were even going to come.It puts it back in their court.

[otheila]

I think I will do the phone calls
I have the same problem with thank you's. Now I admit I don't send thank you notes but I make sure dd calls to say thank you at least, for anything she gets. Some I know don't even do that and that ticks me off to no end. At her party she hands out the loot bags at the end, thanks everyone personally and see's them out, "thank you nanny for the _______ . I'm glad you could come, bye." basically.
I quess bad manners are a pet peeve to me.

[Cherie]

I think it's rude too. I always call and let the person know if we'll be there or not. There's a reason people put that RSVP on the invitation.

I had a party for my son back in October. I had to pay for 8 kids minimum. A little less than a week before the party I had my son pick other kids to invite to make up for the people that didn't RSVP and figured that if they showed up, I'd just tell them they didn't RSVP so I assumed they weren't coming and filled the spot or something. I wasn't going to pay for 8 kids and not have the money well spent (it wasn't cheap).

Cherie

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!

[otheila]

I gave a little over 2 weeks to respond and another week after that till the party. I have received 2 rsvp's that's all. I will be calling the others this week.

[Crafty Amanda]

That's frustrating :-(

One thing I have noticed though is that a lot of parents will not mail the invitations, but send them to school in their children's backpacks. ??? Sheesh. That's not exactly the best form of delivery considering they are depending on their children to get them passed out, and then depending on those kids to actually bring them home, let alone give them to their parents.

Kristen's birthday is coming up, but I will be mailing her invitations. I think I will do them in postcard format to save myself some postage

[Cherie]

That's one good thing about our school. The kids can't bring the invitations to school and pass them out unless they are inviting the whole class, etc. That way no one gets their feelings hurt.

We have a school phone book with all the kids names and addresses by class and parent's names so that makes it pretty easy to mail the invitations.

Cherie

[Crafty Amanda]

I wonder if my school has that! I'll have to check

[otheila]

I hand delivered them to the parents themselves, except one parent and they were one of the ones to rsvp.
I like the idea of a school phone book. That would make it alot easier for the parents to communicate.