Raising a Thinking Preteen

February 12th, 2013 posted by Mia Cronan

The “I Can Problem Solve” program for 8- to 12-year-olds

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What does the title suggest to you? It told me that I was going to read a book about teaching my children to be compassionate, or “thoughtful.” Inasmuch as that may be a pleasant byproduct of Dr. Shure’s program for parents and youngsters, her main focus is to help us raise kids who can responsibly problem-solve, kids who are properly informed and able to make sound decisions. Today our preteens face conflict and serious moral decisions much earlier in life than we did, as a rule. Given that, we all need to be prepared to make good decisions. Dr. Shure’s book does this through identifying the different styles of parenting, teaching how to actively listen to others, helping us find alternative solutions to problems, and preventing typical “teen” problems, such as drug abuse, violence, and pregnancy. The ICPS approach (I Can Problem-Solve) teaches parents to teach children how to think for themselves at an early age so that they methods grow and stay with them into their teen years and beyond. ICPS is designed to help 8- to 12-year-olds, as these years are so formative. Learning this approach can also teach parents how to identify areas in which they can improve their relationships. I really like this book because of the methods that Dr. Shure suggests for effective conversation, which oftentimes is a lost art. She shows us how to have dialogues with our children, rather than monologues. Dr. Shure focuses on teaching how to listen actively and acknowledge our kids’ feelings. We learn how to pull the answers to solutions out of our kids through thoughtful conversation. I highly recommend this book if you’re a parent who wants a better understanding of how preteens’ thought processes work and how to help them form decision-making skills. Read reviews from those that have purchased this book, Average customer rating at is 4.5 stars Click here for more information

Mia Cronan (16 Posts)

Mia Cronan is a married full-time mother of three girls, ages 4, 3, and 1, living in Pennsylvania. She owns and edits www.MainStreetMom.com, the magazine for modern mothers with traditional values. Mia can be reached at [email protected].


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