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Old 09-17-2002, 12:54 PM
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Everyone is pregnant!!!

In the last 6 months, I have had 21 friends announce that they are pregnant and now they are starting to have their babies (all but 2 have been told that they're having a girl! - Of the other 2, I just had a boy & the other wants to be surprised). I am so happy for all of them, but there are days out of each month that I get so upset that I'm not pregnant.

We have a 5 yo daughter - it took along time to get pregnant with her & unless we're surprised when I'm 40 , we're pretty sure she'll remain an only child!

Anyone else feeling the same way?

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Old 09-21-2002, 10:32 AM
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Yep, Right in the same boat....
It took 6 years for us to get pregnant with my daughter Caitlyn! A true blessing at 2 1/2 now! But we want her to have a brother or sister. We have now been trying for year...I have had several customers announce they are pregnant and one just had her baby. I am SO happy for them and still just WISH the same for us!

Some days I just want to give up the infertility battle out of frustration and some days I try and convince myself to just be happy with the beautiful child we have. Then other days I read every thing I can to figure out what is causing my infertility.

I am SO very thankful for our daughter! After 6 years we had resigned ourselves to think we weren't going to have any biological children and had actully started the adopton process when I found out I was pregnant. So I know we are Truly blessed to have a happy baby of our own. But it still is very hard when I, as a women, have the motherly urge to have another child and have all these other reminders of how easy it has been for other women. Very heart wrenching!

So with all that said....

I think I'll go do the BD with my DH! ;-)
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Old 09-21-2002, 10:37 AM
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Crowmommy, I do understand the longing...

It took 5 years to have my first daughter. 5 years later I was resigned that she was going to be an only child. So, we got a dog. 3 months later I found out I was pregnant! I had to get rid of the dog...(long story) It was a very rough pregnancy. My younger daughter had a hard time comming along, but she came through with flying colors. But I knew to be careful with what I wished for. It sure took it's toll on us all. She is a gift They both are! They are both healthy and happy and totally normal girls. And we are blessed, and I count my blessings, and although I always wanted three kids. I'm done.

Sometimes I mourn that that part of my life is over. I'm 45 and just had a hysterectomy this year. So for me there is no doubt that this is over. I get weepy over the sweet babies I see in the mall, and my husband thinks I'm totally nuts!

But all my friends are long done with the baby thing. I was the last of the mommies in my circle of friends. All of them had older kids. So I am not surrounded like you are socially with that sense of loss.

I don't have any real advice for you, other than to consider if you want to persue medical means of conception.

We are blessed with what we have and we can choose to count our blessings or we can choose to mourn what could have been...

So maybe you just need to look at what you have and enjoy her..and take it all one day at a time. And if your sadness persists, maybe you should talk to a counsellor. The hormones can really be tough at our age. Don't discount that! I don't mean to be trivial here, not al all, but the hormone thing...at 40..may be getting the better of you.

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Old 09-21-2002, 01:25 PM
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Hi Crowemommy...
I have wanted a child for so long now. All of my siblings have children. I thought my sister was done having her babies, oldest is 16 and youngest is 11. A short while ago, she announced that her new husband and her were expecting. While I am so happy for them, I can't help but wish it were me and my husband who were going to be parents. I sometimes get a bit blue when I think of this, but I remind myself that God has blessed me (us) with 8 nieces and nephews! Some women were meant to be Aunties and not Mommies I guess.
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Old 09-21-2002, 04:10 PM
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When I find out what insurance is like at hubby's new job you can bet we are going to try to give Sean a sibling. I was last of three in my church to have a baby in 2000. We now have a baby boom going with as many as seven pregnant at any one time. Oh I want to be PG next year
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Old 09-21-2002, 04:15 PM
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Lifestar & Princess - Before we had our daughter, I used to think that the longing was horrible. But then we had her & I was able to experience everything. I realized that I actually feel worse, because now I know what I was missing!

Casey - nothing can ever take that longing away from you & being blue is absolutely normal! I have 2 s.i.l.'s (hubby is 1 of 3 boys). 1 has tried to conceive with no luck & they are becoming foster parents with intention of adopting. The other has been married for just over 2 years & wasn't trying to conceive but has had a horrible time with "female problems" lately. She says she just wants to live vicariously through all her friends and spoil her nieces (her sister has 3 girls & we have 1 girl) rotten!!!

I'm actually 32 - which would mean that our daughter would be 13 if I got pregnant when I'm 40! I'm sure I'd totally embarass her! We had decided the 1st time around to not go very far with medical intervention. I'd heard too many stories about sperm being mixed up & not put with the appropriate egg ... I had a diagnostic laparoscopy and hubby had his little test. He was fine and I was definitely diagnosed with endometriosis. We had decided to just accept our life the way that it was and enjoy everyone elses children. Then, almost 5 years after that surgery, we were surprised! I had an incompetent cervix & was on bed rest for the last 4 months, but all turned out well!

Our daughter was 11 months old when I had my 2nd lap & "clean up". I had my 3rd lap a little over a year ago. I was on Zoladex for 6 months - which is typically used to treat prostate cancer, but is also used to put women into menopause in the hopes of putting the endo in remission (it's similar to Lupron). It was great not having a period, but my emotions were out of control & the hot flashes!!! It's been 4 years since I was on it and I still have the hot flashes & the endo

I try to remember that God has a plan for all us & it's not for us to know right now. It's hard to keep that in perspective when you're crying about the latest friend who's announced she's pregnant.

By the way, I ran into another friend yesterday and she told me she is 2 months pregnant.
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Old 09-24-2002, 10:04 AM
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Crowemommy -

I know how you feel! I am just 31 and no kids yet. My very best friend just called me and she is pregnant. She is the last childless friend I have. My DH is in seminary and will be for 2 more years. Most of the women here have at least one child with one on the way. Sometimes they forget that some of us can't have kids (we aren't sure about me - I was just diagnosed with PCOS) and ask the question "Why do you have any kids?". I am trying not to be upset and angry, but sometimes you want to scream "Don't you think I am trying!!"

Anyway - I guess I need to walk by faith and not by sight and remember that God does have a plan, but I am glad I am not the only one that feels this way.
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Old 10-29-2002, 07:02 AM
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Longing to have a child of my own...

Hi everyone! This is the first time I ahve ventured out of the food section and just realized what more you guys had to offer. My husband and I have been trying to concieve for over a year now and I after hearing your stories of it taking 5-6 years I do not think I can stand the wait. What did you all do to keep it off your minds and continue on with life while "patiently waiting"? I am 29 years old and have been married for over 2 years. I am the one of the last of all my friends to be married and have kids. Most of my friends have multiple kids. I am "aunties" to all and love children but long for a child of my own. I do consider myself blessed to have such a wonderful relationship with my 6 year old step son who I claim as my own and have seen grow up from the time he was 2. I had finally gotten in the groove with just ebing a step mom and living life and had not thought much about it in a while until this weekend. I went to one of my step sons soccer teamates birthday parties and there was a friends of a friend there with her 1 mo old baby. Of course I held him for the duration of the 2 hour party and then rekindled my want for a baby. I quess I don't really have any questions I just wanted to share.
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Old 10-30-2002, 05:03 PM
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Waiting patiently ......

Hi Txchef_fran -- what food forums do you usually hang out in? I'm addicted to the What's For Dinner forum and am usually there!! Isn't this a great website - so much for so many!

"What did you all do to keep it off your minds and continue on with life while "patiently waiting"? "

I ALWAYS have babies on my mind. I was away for work this weekend and every time I saw a little one, I just melted! The 5 year old little girls reminded me of my little girl who I was missing horribly and the babies, ugh, just made me want to run away and cry! My period comes & goes as it pleases, but the minute I'm beyond 30 days since my last one, I start to wonder! Could this be the month???

Well, of all those wonderful friends of mine, about half are having their babies now. In the last 4 days, 1 little boy and 2 little girls have come into the world. I will ooh and ahh and hold them, then go home, thank God for the little girl He has given me and cry into my pillow because I want another one!
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Old 10-31-2002, 02:35 AM
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Re: Waiting patiently ......

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I will ooh and ahh and hold them, then go home, thank God for the little girl He has given me and cry into my pillow because I want another one!
That hit the nail right on the head for me too....
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