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Old 01-06-2005, 05:49 AM
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Little one can't decide!

In the past couple of weeks I have been noticing my 2 3/4 year old doing this....he wants to do something, we say yes and start to let him, then he decides he does NOT want to do it, so we say that's fine too, then he changes his mind....

Of course, none of this is earthshattering stuff--none of it matters whether he does it or not. Sometimes it's something he wants to do himself, like press the toaster button for his waffle. Sometimes it's deciding what shirt to wear when given 2 to choose from.

It definitely does test my patience, though. I don't remember my other 2 children ever doing this.

I don't know if he's just pressing my buttons, testing out his power or really can't make up his mind. Though he is very verbal for his age he really can't answer that.

Anyone have any good advice?
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Old 01-23-2005, 01:23 PM
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Child can't decide

I would say he is pushing your buttons!!! Oh the power your son has discovered he has. I am sure he understands quite a explain to him whatever decision he makes, he sticks with. Period. Then be consistant.
This will continue into higher age if you don't get a handle on it. (eg. a child that does not stick to any sport or activity).
Sometimes things can become big things if they are not dealt with.
Hopefully this helps! All the best to you and your family.
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Old 01-24-2005, 06:55 AM
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I have 6 kids, and I understand that they are all different! My oldest would do the same thing and I always just rolled over with whatever he decided. (not good) He has gone through music lessons for 3 different instruments by grade 6. At the age of 2 or 3, your son is probably just testing his boundaries and yours. With my other children I let them change their mind once, but not more than that. After all, I change my mind too, sometimes.
I will say that I have learned the value of listening to their reasons for wanting to do something in the first place. I mean, if they ask to do something I'll ask something like "what do you like about that?" or "what else do you want to do?" If they are easily distracted just with the question, chances are they're gonna loose interrest while they're doing what they've asked. Sometimes a little investigation can head off the problem. I know it isn't easy, but try not to let it get to you. And whatever your game plan, stick to it! That's the best way you can teach your little ones to be decisive!
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Old 02-20-2005, 01:35 PM
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My 2nd son was like that. And still is (20 years later). It used to drive me nuts when I'd take him shopping. I always thought he was just afraid to commit (his girlfriend will vouch for that now).

And unfortunately, I'm seeing the same signs in Ethan.

I'd say give it time, but if it looks like it's more than just a phase, maybe do some research on how to teach kids decision-making skills. That's what I will be doing. Since I don't have the patience to raise another indecisive child.
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