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Old 07-03-2004, 09:33 AM
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Who's the tightwad in the family and who's the spender??

Hello eveyrone! New to this site, I am glad I found it, good place to talk about stuff to other women. Well here it goes.

I am the tightwad in my family. I like saving money and only spending stuff on things we need. When going out grocery shopping I would look for the better deal. It's hard to save sometimes because my husband is the spender in the family and only one income since I don't work at the moment. He likes to buy stuff for his car. Costing hundreds of dollars, and sometimes thousands. He recently sold his old car ($5,000 of stuff put into it!!) , since we bought a new one and said he doesn't have interest in the other car no more. So I thought all this car stuff would stop. But it hasn't, for the new car, he wants to put a new exhaust...yada yada yada. I complained about it and he said that he won't do anything dramatic to it. He said he'll spend about $800, then he won't do anything to the car no more. We have a baby, only thing we have to worry about is diapers and wipes, everything else we got from the baby shower. You're probably wondering why I don't put my foot down right?? Well we have savings, so a few hundred goes in there every month. And he only spends when he knows there will be enough money for food, etc. when buying something.

So who's the tightwad in your family, and who's the spender??
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Old 07-03-2004, 10:07 AM
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By far Im a the tightwad and my DH is the spender!!

If he is has any extra money, he thinks nothing about spending it on any idea at hand at that moment.

Im so used to looking for sales on clothes that I actually feel bad about buying myself something new at the regular price.

I always put myself last on the list for buying things too. But isnt that the way most wives/mothers usually do? What a habit for us to get into!!

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Old 07-03-2004, 04:19 PM
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I used to say I was the tightwad but that role has reversed this past year... now dh hoards money and yells about unnecassary expenses (sigh, my crafts). He is right and I'm trying hard to get back on track.

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Old 07-03-2004, 08:00 PM
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I am the frugal one. I willl not buy a single item unless it is special/reduced/sale priced. Husband willl spend $2.50 fora bag ofchipsandeat them in 2 nights. Justdrives mewild. Butwhat canIsay. I buy what I want...houseplants and raise fish.
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Old 07-04-2004, 05:07 AM
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I am the tightwad

I figure, is it a want or a need? I did buy a huge spider plant the other day marked down 1/2 price to $5. I didnt need it, but wanted it. And it was a great deal. I figured, DH thinks nothing of dropping $10 at the bar,so I bought it.
In the winter, (we live in ND and it gets cold) he'll turn the heat up rather than put a sweatshirt on first! He says he will not wear a sweatshirt in the house.
When I go to the grocery store, I always compare prices and size. He just picks up whatever, and 2-3 of them at that!
He can at times be thrifty, he will eat leftovers for days, and loves garage sales and thrift stores, so Im really not complainging.
But, I am the one who is most thrifty.
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Old 07-05-2004, 07:40 AM
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DH....(bless his heart) lol.will spend whatever when it comes to his hobbies, never thinking aout total spent . Boy it sure adds up fast too, doesn't it. Everyone needs a hobby. He works so hard to provide for us since I'm no longer able to work so how could I complain? I beleive everyone needs a hobby to help them to relax or forget their cares even if it's just for a moment. So I'm not complaining .
I am the one though that scrimps and tries to save. I actually cringe at how easily some cpeople can spend but when it comes to my crafts I will admit that it take alot of willpower not to go crazy! Especially when there are so many beautiful new additions to the crafting world.
I too refuse to buy anything that isn't on sale, but would rather use coupons instead of buying store brands. I think the quality of alot of those items just isn't as good as national brands.
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Old 07-05-2004, 08:50 AM
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These roles have gone back and forth since hubby and I got married, but, right now, we are both so tired of being broke that I don't EVEN want to spend money and neither does he.

We are working together, and together we are going to get all bills caught up, savings in the bank, and play money for each of us.

I always look for deals/reduced/sales/clearance, too, and I, too, ajrsom, always buy for myself last. I have just about given up on
walmart clothes, they wear out so fast. I have decided to go to stores like JC Penneys and Sears, just catch the stuff on sale. I can't see buying ds son shoes every two months from walmart when hopefully better ones will last longer. Same with t-shirts, two washes and they are bedraggled.

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Old 07-05-2004, 07:49 PM
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Thinking about this, my DH is frugal

Vary frugal actually. We run a working cattle ranch. And when we needed equipment (tractor, trailers, seeders, etc.) My DH bought older used stuff. He is always looking for good deals. He can fix things up and make them useable. We have saved thousands of dollars by him doing this.
I had been thinking of this thread, and what I wrote, and DH is a tightwad in some ways, other ways, not. So it all evens out.
I am so grateful he can fix, or build almost anything, saves us tons of money.
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Old 07-05-2004, 11:24 PM
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This is a hard question because it depends with us.
I think my hubby us much more of a tightwad than I am in most things. I am basically frugal but I think you need to splurge every once in awhile b/c we do only live once and our kids are only young once!
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Old 07-08-2004, 09:20 AM
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Spider Plant! You paid for it??

You are not a tightwad if you paid for a plant that grows like a weed. As your friends for spider plants and you will be offered millions. I saw one i liked in a restaurant and just clipped off a baby with my finger nail. Still growing happy and free 15 years later. Despite a few cats mowing it down.

You must all read the Millionaire Next Door! I discovered that frugality is genetic!! Ever heard of the frugal Scott? That's me. Scottish to the core.

They analyzed wealth and who is wealthy and discovered amazing things. Do follow up with the Rich Dad Poor Dad series of books.
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