Visit FamilyCorner.com for tons of seasonal ideas!
quick link - go to our home page quick link - kid's crafts, family fun, printables, etc quick link - sign up for our free newsletter quick link - holiday crafts, recipes and ideas quick link - gardening, organizing, saving money, decorating and more quick link - our FunBook is filled with lots of quick ideas, tips and crafts quick link - join our bustling community of friendly members


Go Back   FamilyCorner.com Forums > Parenting > Ages & Stages > Teenagers

Teenagers So many parents of teens have said "just you wait!" But why? What are your thoughts on teens today?

Reply
 
Thread Tools Rate Thread
  #1 (permalink)  
Old 08-16-2004, 06:37 AM
ajrsmom's Avatar
Nine Year Member
FamilyCorner Postaholic
 
Join Date: Feb 2002
Location: Originally from the Home of the only 6 times Super Bowl Champs!
Posts: 11,872
Extra Curricular Overload

School is about to open and with it comes the barrage of extra curricular activities. Talent shows. Science projects. Homework. Dance class. Basketball practice. Violin recitals. Book reports. When is enough too much?

A friend of mine once told me of her 15 year old daughter who had insisted on participating in almost every extra cirricular activity that came down the pipe. "She has become snippy with her siblings and looks tired. I think she knows that she took a large bite this time. She seems irritated that her free TV watching time has been replaced by schoolwork." What's a parent to do? Is there a tactful way of dealing with this issue without squashing your child's interests or enthusiasm?

Here are a few tips that may help your child ease into a comfort zone fit for both of you.

What to Consider
Janet has chosen four activities that she would like to participate in after school: basketball, dance, ceramics and drama club. In order to determine whether or not this is doable without experiencing overload, first you must figure out if:

1) she will have ample time for homework and special school projects
2) it will affect her family or religious obligations
3) they will interfere with her private time alone or with friends

How much time does it take Janet to get her homework done each night? Is she the type of child that finishes her homework in studyhall and on the bus ride home or does she dawdle for hours at night, just to rush and get it done the following morning while eating her breakfast?

Does she have prior commitments through her church or other family obligations that may prevent or deter an activity she has chosen? Will Janet have enough time to watch television and relax or chat on the phone with her friends?

All of these questions should be addressed before deciding on which activities to choose.

Putting it Down on Paper
Once you have assessed the amount of time needed for schoolwork and other commitments, it's time to lay the activities out on the table.

Begin with which activities Janet finds most rewarding. Write the chosen activities down on a piece of paper and ask her to number them by importance, number one being most important and number four the least.

It's time to label each activity with approximate commitment times. For example, if Janet chose dance as her most rewarding choice, you will need to label the amount of time that this activity will require. Most activities provide a schedule for the duration of the season. If you don't have one, ask the instructor or coach.

Let's say that dance requires two practices per week after school at one hour each and a recital every other Saturday for one hour. Don't forget commute time! You've determined that for each one hour session you will need to arrive 15 minutes early for warm ups and it takes 15 minutes to get there and 15 minutes to get home. So you've rounded each one hour session up to two hours of committed time.

2 hrs x 2 times per week = 4 hrs/week
plus two Saturdays per month at 2 hrs each

Do this simple exercise for each activity. Don't get too detailed, keep it fairly simple and round up instead of down on your times. This will allow for extra time if you need it, and we usually do!

What to Eliminate
You've determined the following from the above exercises:

Homework: Janet is an academic child and usually has the bulk of her homework done before she gets home from school. Whatever isn't done is usually finished before dinner is put on the table.

Family/religion: Janet has commitments at her place of worship once per week for one hour. She also baby-sits her little brother every Friday night for her parents.

Private time: Janet likes to spend time with her friends at least two times per week after school just hanging out. Sometimes she likes to roller blade or just watch television. She has decided that she would like to slot a few hours twice per week just for herself.

Dance: This activity, as illustrated above, will need a commitment of 4-6 hours per week, including commute time.

Basketball: This was Janet's second choice. Though this activity also takes up a lot of time, it is seasonal and does not last all year.

Drama club: This is something that Janet truly enjoys, but she has determined that her private time and her family time are more important to her, so she has decided not to take it this year.

Ceramics: Though this was last on Janet's list of most rewarding activities, she chose it over drama because it only requires one hour per week after school.

Our children look to us for guidance. If we decide to be the 'bad guy" and tell our children whether or not they may participate in an activity, we create a negative atmosphere. By allowing our children to be part of the decision making process, we have taught a lesson in responsibility that will help carry them into a more productive adulthood. By allowing Janet to be part of the final decision, rather than being the "bad guy" yourself, you have created a win/win situation for both you and your child.

RELATED RESOURCES

Ending Sibling Fights
http://www.thefamilycorner.com/cgi-b...ump.cgi?ID=203
Managing Morning Madness
http://www.thefamilycorner.com/cgi-b...mp.cgi?ID=1390
Kids Home Alone: When and How?
http://www.thefamilycorner.com/cgi-b...mp.cgi?ID=3545

About the Author
Amanda Formaro is the entrepreneurial mother of four children. She is also the owner of FamilyCorner.com Magazine at http://familycorner.com



printed from FamilyCorner.com
__________________


**
Visit my blogs **

Tami's Kitchen Table Talk

Simple, easy-to-cook family recipes
and lots of good conversation!

Join the Cookie Carnival!
On Hiatus

If you love baking cookies, join our group!





Reply With Quote
  #2 (permalink)  
Old 08-17-2004, 02:34 AM
mom2-4's Avatar
Moderator
FamilyCorner Fanatic
 
Join Date: Jul 2002
Location: PA
Posts: 3,350
ajrsmom, the Kids Home Alone: When and How? link doesn't work for me.
Reply With Quote
  #3 (permalink)  
Old 08-17-2004, 05:17 AM
Amanda's Avatar
Moderator
FamilyCorner Fanatic
 
Join Date: Jan 2002
Location: southeast Wisconsin
Posts: 4,487
Quote:
Originally posted by mom2-4
ajrsmom, the Kids Home Alone: When and How? link doesn't work for me.
Try it now, I just corrected the link
__________________
Forum Administrator

visit my blogs:
Amanda's Cookin'
Crafts by Amanda
Reply With Quote
  #4 (permalink)  
Old 08-17-2004, 05:43 AM
mom2-4's Avatar
Moderator
FamilyCorner Fanatic
 
Join Date: Jul 2002
Location: PA
Posts: 3,350
Thank you Amanda it is working now!
Reply With Quote
  #5 (permalink)  
Old 08-19-2004, 08:03 PM
ajrsmom's Avatar
Nine Year Member
FamilyCorner Postaholic
 
Join Date: Feb 2002
Location: Originally from the Home of the only 6 times Super Bowl Champs!
Posts: 11,872
Thanks Amanda for fixing that for me!




Tami
__________________


**
Visit my blogs **

Tami's Kitchen Table Talk

Simple, easy-to-cook family recipes
and lots of good conversation!

Join the Cookie Carnival!
On Hiatus

If you love baking cookies, join our group!





Reply With Quote
  #6 (permalink)  
Old 08-06-2015, 02:47 PM
cat lover's Avatar
Head Moderator
FamilyCorner Addict
 
Join Date: Oct 2003
Location: Taswell,Indiana
Posts: 7,963
bump
__________________
cat lover
We Welcome Strays

When I was young we used to go "skinny dipping"; now we just "chunky dunk"


“The value of doing something does not lie in the ease or difficulty, the probability or improbability of its achievement, but in the vision, the plan, the determination and the perseverance, the effort and the struggle which go into the project. Life is enriched by aspiration and effort, rather than by acquisition and accumulation.”

― Helen Nearing, The Good Life
Reply With Quote
 
Reply


Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Thread Tools
Rate This Thread
Rate This Thread:

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is Off
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off


Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Extra Photographs krazikwilt Crafty Corner 21 08-06-2015 02:47 PM
Earning Extra Money From Home gkp1031 General Advice 15 11-25-2007 09:11 AM
What Extra Curricular Activities are High School Kids Involved In Now? ajrsmom High School 9 09-17-2007 10:38 AM


All times are GMT -8. The time now is 07:26 PM.


Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2017, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
SEO by vBSEO 3.6.1
Copyright 1997-2012, FamilyCorner.com Magazine, Inc. an Internet Brands company

POPULAR AREAS OF FAMILYCORNER.COM

Our Family FunBook is packed full of ideas from parents just like you!

Our members say that they have never found a friendlier message board community than ours!

Our kid's craft section is filled with easy ideas for creative little minds.

We have tons of free printable coloring pages to keep your little ones happy.

We offer a wide variety of free newsletters delivered right to your inbox.

Our Household Hints & Tips have a wealth of information on cleaning, organizing, and more!
Go to the funbook Go to forums Go to kid's crafts Go to printables Go to newsletters Go to Hints & Tips

Home || Newsletters || Advertising || Terms of Use || Privacy || Services || Submissions || Contact Us || Media Opportunities || Link To Us || Shop || Feedback || Staff || e-Cards || Reminder Service



FamilyCorner.com® is sponsored in part by...




Visit our friends --> MomsMenu | Main Street Mom | She Knows | Baby University | Personal Fitness Zone | iChef.com

Copyright Notice | Privacy Policy | Terms of Use/Disclaimer