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Old 09-23-2004, 02:27 PM
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4 year old and 21 year old

I am a step mom to a 4 year old boy. Currently, he resides with his mother. His mother has him sharing a room with a 21 year old female, who is a felon. I don't know what the charges are, but arent there laws against this? What can I do about it? She is not listening to us and if we complain too much, she will not let my guy see his son (even though that is illegal, she is that type of person that only cares about herself). HELP!!!
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Old 09-23-2004, 02:43 PM
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Your DH needs to speak with an attorney even if that means contacting the local Legal Aide office.
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Old 09-24-2004, 03:30 AM
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Abear is right. Your DH needs to contact his lawyer ASAP!

When my ex married for a second time, his wife was not the nicest to my son, I had to contact my lawyer twice because he failed to step up to the plate and do anything about it.

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Old 09-24-2004, 06:59 AM
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Re: 4 year old and 21 year old

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I am a step mom to a 4 year old boy. Currently, he resides with his mother. His mother has him sharing a room with a 21 year old female, who is a felon. I don't know what the charges are, but arent there laws against this? What can I do about it? She is not listening to us and if we complain too much, she will not let my guy see his son (even though that is illegal, she is that type of person that only cares about herself). HELP!!!
concerned.....You can look up her record if you know her name yourself. All records are recorded in the county court house for any one to read. Can even go on the internet to check it out. I am sure his ex wife will not hesitate to give the information if she knows how you feel.

You can be a felon for a number of reasons even writing bad checks or stealing.
Do it soon to ease your mind & your Dh.

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Old 09-24-2004, 08:34 AM
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Wrong wrong wrong!
Call child protective.
There's a certain age they
go by for children different sexes
sharing a room!
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Old 09-30-2004, 05:08 PM
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What can and cannot be done will depend upon your state and jurisdiction.

There may be nothing "wrong" going on - just a situation that is uncomfortable for you. However, there might be something "not quite right" about the situation.

Contact your local law enforcement agency and find out what is and is not legal in that jurisdiction. Do not involve social services unless you are prepared for your DH's "ex" to accuse him of child molestation. Social services in most states is well-meaning, but very ineffective.

Once you know the legal situation, then your DH (can't be you, has to be he who does anything) will have to go through his atty or through Legal Aid. It will require legal action, and probably an expensive court suit. You need to be prepared for this, and be willing to go through whatever you need to go through.

Sorry to be sorta pessimistic about it, but this has been the repeated experiences of jurisdictions in our state (GA).

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Old 09-30-2004, 10:06 PM
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Have your guy call an attorney immediately!.. You can do nothing, you are no relation to the child....even if you were married to your guy, you have no legal right.
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Old 10-01-2004, 04:52 AM
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Right on, Jeannie!

You can say things so much more succinctly than I can!

Cheerio!
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Old 10-01-2004, 12:01 PM
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Elizabeth..

I do not beat around the bush... I don't try to soft soap anything, I tell it like it is.. Some people say I'm too ummm abrupt...
I don't see why you can't come right out and say what others are thinking..... It's time for people to toughen up and get over themselves...--*chuckle*
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Old 10-01-2004, 02:49 PM
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Right on! I just don't understand people being so hypersensitive - and I grew up and live in the South, where people take offense at the strangest things...

So, concerned, both of the "crusties" at FC are pointing you in no uncertain terms toward getting your guy to run, not walk, to an attorney!!

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