I just had to share this, sorry it is soooooo long

  • Oh by the way,
    I just wanted to say hi Kelly and thanks for the welcome.
    Oh yes, and hi to you too Amanda I am glad I found you all here. I look forward to reading all your stories,meantime I have one now that I recieved from a friend of mine via an e-mail
    A few months ago, when I was picking up the children at school, another mom I knew well,rushed up to me. She was fuming.

    "Do you know what you and I are?" she demanded.

    Before I could answer, and I didn't really have one handy, she blurted out the reason for her question. It seemed she had just returned from renewing her driving liscence at the County Clerk's office. Asked by the woman recorder to state her occupation.

    My friend hesitated, uncertain how to classify herself.

    "What I mean is" explained the recorder "do you have a job or are you just a......?"

    "Of course I have a job," snapped my friend "I'm a mother."

    "We don't list Mother as an occupation...Housewife covers it," said the recorder emphatically.

    I forgot all about her story until oneday I found myself in the same situation. This time at our Town Hall. The clerk was obviously a career woman, poised, efficient, and possessed of a high-sounding title like Official Interrogator or Town Rigistrar.

    "And what is your occupation?" she probed.

    What made me say it,I do not know. the words simply popped out. "I'm a Research Assosiate in the field of Child Development and Human Relations."

    The clerk paused, ball point pen frozen in mid air, and looked up as though she had not heard right. I repeated the title slowly, emphasizing the most significant words. Then I stared with wonder as my pompous pronouncement was written in bold, black ink on the official questionnaire.

    "Might I ask" said the clerk with new interest, "just what you do in your field?"

    Cooly without any trace of fluster in my voice, I heard myself reply, " I have a continuing program of research (what mother doesn't) in the laboratory and in the field (normally I would have said indoors and out). I'm working for my Masters ( the whole damed family) and already have four credits ( all daughters)." "Of course the job is one of the most demandingin the Humanities(any mother care to disagree?) and I often work 14 hours a day (24 is more like it). But the job is more challenging than most run-of-the-mill careers and the rewards are in satisfaction rather than just money."

    There was an increasing note of respect in the clerk's voice as she completed the form, stood up, and personally ushered me to the door.

    As I drove into the driveway, buoyed up by my glamorous new career, I was greeted by my lab assistants-ages 13, 7 and 3. Upstairs I could hear our new experimental model (6 months)in the child develoment program, testing out a new vocal pattern. I felt triumphant, I had scored a point on bureaucracy! And I had gone on the official records as someone more distinguished and indispensable to mankind than just "another mother."

    Motherhood......what a glorius career. Especially when there's a title on the door.

    Whether a stay at home Mom or a career Mom, we should all carry this title.

    I hope you like that,
    Ciao for now,
  • That's a classic Irene! I've seen that one circulate the Internet for a long time! There are so many good ones out there, aren't there?

    Thanks for sharing that!
  • Go Mothers!!!
    That was great Irene!
    I have a little story. My husband was at work one day talking to a friend of his (who also has a SAHW/M) about how they wouldn't have our jobs(yes, our husbands used the word jobs), when a single guy with no children who had overheard the conversation butted in and said, "Oh, I would love to stay at home while my wife went to work. So I could sleep in late, then lay around eating and watching TV all day." Our husbands told him he didn't have a clue what he was talking about and mine said l'll call my wife and you ask her these questions (my husband made a list). I get a phone call: 1. What time did you get up this morning? 3am when my youngest woke up with teething pain. 2. What cleaning have you done today? I've done four loads of laundry, dusted, vaccumed, cleaned the bathroom, changed the litter(the cat pooped on the floor because I forgot to do it last night, steamed clean the carpet (the dog got sick), given the kids a bath (a diaper leaked and where one goes the other follows) 3. Have you had a shower today? no, I'm aiming for tonight. 4. What have you cooked today? pancakes(kids breakfast),peanut butter and jelly(kids lunch), working on lasagna for dinner. 5. Have you eaten today? snagged a pancake before I cleaned up cat poop. 6. What have you watched on TV? nothing, but my daughter said Roly Poly(kids show) was good. 7. What else have you done today? Isn't that enough. I took care of one bloody lip (the youngest was learning to walk, opps) Pushed the kids on the swings, baked cookies, and went to the bathrrom around 9am(It was 5pm when he called).
    When my hubby got home he filled me in on what that was all about and that the guy changed his tune after he talked to me. I rolled laughing because this was a good day for me. Now the guy asks how I'm doing and when I finally met him treated me with the respect I deserve, but the absolute best part was finding out how much my hubby thought of me and what I do and that he wouldn't do what I do because it's to much work. GO MOTHERS of the world!!!
    I guess its a long story, sorry
  • Wow Beth,
    Thanks for sharing that. We stay at home mom's sometimes feel a little unimportant, well I do anyway. I know that even though I have 3 kids I don't always feel important until I stop and think of the oppurtunities my kids would be missing out on if I weren't there for them. It was my choice to be a stay at home mom and I am lucky that financially it is possible for us.
    You know it is funny, I was talking to a good friend of mine the other day and she is a Mom that goes out of the home to work. She said to me, "I don't know how you do it, when I was off work for a couple of weeks I couldn't wait to go back to work. Being a stay at home Mom is too much work, I couldn't do it." LAnd she was sooooooo sincere about it. She didn't say it just to make me feel good, although it really did, but rather was simply stating a fact.
    Ciao for now,
  • I've been in both worlds and they both are demanding. My husband was a sahd for about 6 months when our first was born. He has a great deal of respect and admiration for sahm and for career moms as well! Great stories ladies!