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View Poll Results: How do you and your spouse handle discipline disagreements?
we tend to argue in front of the kids without realizing it 1 6.67%
we ask each other to step out of the room to discuss it 5 33.33%
we send the kids to their room before discussing it 5 33.33%
we never agree, I do one thing, my spouse always counteracts me 1 6.67%
other 3 20.00%
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Old 06-20-2008, 05:35 AM
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How do you and your spouse handle discipline disagreements?

Sometimes my hubby and I don't necessarily agree on how to discipline our kids. It can be rather aggravating for both of us. It also sends the wrong message when we argue in front of them.

Does this ever happen at your house? How have you handled it?

I found this article on FC's website entitled "When Parents Disagree on Discipline" by FC Parenting Expert, Armin Brott. After reading it, I've gleaned several great ideas that I plan to try out right away.

Check out the article, vote on the poll and share your experience. Let us know what you think of Armin's advice, is he right, wrong, or somewhere in between?

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Old 06-20-2008, 05:54 AM
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I no longer have a spouse but generally we went to another room or out on patio to talk over things
I will take what I am served knowing someone out there is being served MUCH less
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Old 06-20-2008, 09:00 AM
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When my kids were younger we would discuss it in another room...never in front of the kids...
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Old 06-20-2008, 02:02 PM
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DH and I never contridict what the other says whether it's a punishment or if some one can go somwhere or do something. Even not in their teens.
If one of us is not sure how we should proceed we discuss it out of ear shot of the kids.
99% of the time we agree on what to do.
dh and I rarely argue we discuss but it never gets to argue stage.
We had one of these discussions this week as ds1 wanted to go somwhere we weren't happy about. After our discussion we told ds1 how we came to the conclusion as we always do and the answer was no.

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Old 06-21-2008, 06:46 AM
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My husband is no longer with us, but when he was we agreed with one another as far as where the kids could go, when to be home and discipline was the same way. Which ever one of us made the decision the other one of us went along with it as it was usually the right one for us (and the child). I can never really remember any disagreements with my husband over what would be the best...
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Old 06-22-2008, 04:52 PM
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I think hubby and i are on the same wavelength most of the time.

i have a friend though that every time she disciplines her 15 yo daughter, the daughter smiles and whines to her dad and he gives in and completely ignores what the mom said. It's awful, the daughter totally plays both of them
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