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Moms of 3 or More Do you have 3 or more children? Often times, parents with 3 or more kids face challenges that those of 1 or 2 just do not. This board was set up for those parents to ask others how they cope with issues such as making time for each child, who stays u

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Old 01-15-2002, 08:43 AM
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She doesn't want her own room?! Wow, I don't think I have ever heard that one before!

It will be interesting to see if PJ says the same to me soon!
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Old 01-15-2002, 09:13 AM
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Well funny thing is she and Tony switched back before they went to sleep. LOL Guess they couldn't hack it!
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Chores and kids

I have 5 children ages 2 years to nearly 13 years old. Everyone in the house has chores including my 2 year old. His are simple like asking him to clean up toys when he is done playing but I think it is important to get little ones helping early. We have a montly family meeting where every 6 months (we do it by season..winter chores and summer chores) the children can change chores or request a different job. Having a list of chores you need done and allowing the kids to pick has worked well in our house and the fact they only have to do it for 6 months and can change also helps with being saddled with a chore they don't want to do.

We list the the chores (including mom and dad's) on a paper on the fridge titled "Family Helpers". To me this sounded nicer than chores. Each person's name is listed and what their chore is and when it is to be done or how often. For the first 2 weeks I or my husband will help the kids with new chores and teach them how to do it right if it is something new to them. After that they are on their own.

It works out great for us. If I cook dinner then my children do the clean up of the table and the kitchen and the dishes and hubby takes out trash. We all share in the responsiblility.

When a complaint of unfair comes up we can schedual an emergency family meeting or I remind them that the chore they have is only till such and such date and then they can request another one. It if funny how someone thinks sweeping the floor looks more fun than taking out the trash or sorting laundry looks more fun than raking leaves when someone else is doing it.
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I have 5 children, and the problem of 'not fair' seems to be solved in our house. We tell our older children that more priviledges and freedoms come along with more responsibility, and we make sure we follow through with that statement. Sometimes it is scary to give your children more freedom, but in our experience, they live up to our expectations, and tend to act in a more responsible way if given the chance.
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Old 01-18-2002, 05:36 AM
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mamakali, it sounds like you have a nice system set up! I especially like the term "Family Helpers" rather than "Chore Chart"...it gives a meaning behind the purpose of chores


mumzy, what ages are your children?
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I have a 20 y/o son, 17 y/o daughter, 13 y/o son, 11 y/o son, and 1 y/o baby girl!
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Old 01-18-2002, 11:00 AM
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Welcome mumzy! You are a brave lady starting with diapers all over again! LOL I can't wait till my 4th is out of them, YEAH! ;-) ;-) ;-)
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Thanks for the welcome-this looks like an upbeat, fun place to visit. An addition to my first post today: This goes in the "You can't win" catagory for parents. My 17 y/o daughter is attending college full-time rather than high school for her last 2 years, and she is handling it beautifully all on her own. We provide her support when she asks and cheer her on. She stays out of trouble and generally manages her own life like a pro, so we give her a lot of freedom. But just today, she informed me that she is ticked off that we don't pay enough attention to where she is and what she is doing, and it makes her feel like we don't care! Go figure! I am going to write a book someday...:D
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LOL! You're right, you can't win! :-) I think it's great tho that she feels that way.
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>>How do you all handle chores in your households?

My girls are 5 years apart. When they were younger "it's not fair" was a common complaint. We explained to them that life itself isn't fair. The older one had to do more chores, but had more freedoms based on her age.

It didn't really hit home to them until they grew up. My now 24-year-old said at 18 that she wished she could go back to only have chores. I've seen some good ideas on this board. Some will work, some won't. Chores are just the price they pay to be part of a family with parents who take care of them.
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