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Moms of 3 or More Do you have 3 or more children? Often times, parents with 3 or more kids face challenges that those of 1 or 2 just do not. This board was set up for those parents to ask others how they cope with issues such as making time for each child, who stays u

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Old 06-18-2002, 07:17 PM
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Yes! I remember leaving the house in better condition than when I entered it. The dishes were done, the garbage all picked up, nothing out of place...AND...the only things eaten or drank were what was left out for me. We hired a babysitter to watch our 2 boys when my daughter was born and I couldn't believe the condition of the house when I came home. And to make a bad situation worse, she had her boyfriend spend the night with her AND a couple of our movies ended up missing. What a nightmare!
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Old 06-19-2002, 05:32 PM
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Boy do I realize that I have been spoiled by having my daughter babysit!! When my daughter was small, I lived near my family and either my parents or my sister would babysit for me....... which was very seldom.

I think I may soon be in for the shock of a lifetime when we have to actually hire a sitter! YIKES!!

Yes, I remember when I babysat when I was a teen back in the "olden days". When I left the home, it was as clean or cleaner than when I arrived. I never even thought to believe it was okay to invite a friend over while I was babysitting let alone my boyfriend!

My, how times have changed!!! To be honest, the thought of hiring a sitter kind of worries me now!!
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Old 07-04-2002, 08:55 AM
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Here in North Carolina I was paying $3.00 for my child. After
my second child was born less than a year ago we pay $5.00
per hour for both children.
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Old 08-03-2002, 11:55 AM
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We are now entering that same problem. We've had the same baby sitter for 4 years now. However, she's heading off to college We don't know anyone in the area (although we've been here 5 years--people aren't that social here ).
I know I'll never find anyone like VeeVee because she was the absolute best. We paid her 6 an hour for our 3. She's one of those people that does everything effortlessly. While I struggle with the kids to keep the house clean or even to clean one good time, we can be gone 3 hours and the house is IMMACULATE! Clothes washed, bathrooms cleaned, kids fed, bathed and in bed... etc etc. We even left her here one night with the kids while we stayed in Chicago for our anniversary. Our oldest got sick and she handled it without a problem. Kept him hydrated. Set him up in my husband and my bed watching tv etc. til we could get home.
Now WHERE do you find someone like that?
Thankfully, she said if we need her she'll come home and watch the kids, but we cant ask her to drive home from IU very often, although she would.
*sigh* Sooooo....we search. I'm very worried, though, about bringing someone new in. Our's are ages 5, 2, and 4 months now... you hear so many horror stories and we've already had the babysitter from hell when our oldest was a baby. It would kill me to have that happen again. I guess tomorrow I could call our church (I think I saw someone say that in a post) and ask if they have a list of girls and then have them over for a little at a time so I can observe.
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Man, she sounds like a gem!! We've had some great babysitters, but none of them have ever cleaned anything!

Good luck finding someone new!
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Old 08-30-2002, 09:58 AM
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WOW, I used to lament the fact that we didn't have a sitter. But at $10/hour I couldn't have afforded one anyway. Being remarried, we have some weekends without kids anyway, and we try to maximize our time then. MIL babysits during a monthly meeting we attend.

When I was a single parent, my ex, my mom, or my best friend watched my daughter if I couldn't work my schedule around her activities (I was in school part of the time). When I was dating, it was only on weekends I didn't have her with me. Now that I'm remarried, our couple time is very limited, and usually scheduled around kid-free weekends.

Our kids stay home for very short periods by themselves. They are too old for babysitters, and too young/irresponsible to really be alone too long. We run errands with them at home, but we don't go out on dates when they're home.
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Old 08-31-2002, 02:57 AM
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shocking newbie here

I just wanted to add my two cents about the babysitting. I personally have never had babysitters for my five children. My hubby and i never do anything or go anywhere.
I seem to be the babysitter for everyone else. I am fine with that i dont mind helping people out at all. I dont charge by the hour. It gets too expensive that way i think. Last week i was watching a little boy that was 7, the two days total hours was 18 hours. I charged 15 dollars. I dont have to change diapers or anything like that. I cant charge a lot to people for playing with their children and entertaining them when thats what i love to do anyway. People always come back to me because im so cheap probably lol i dont really do it for the money i do it to help out my friends and i love kids so that helps i spose
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Old 07-07-2004, 06:56 PM
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I guess tomorrow I could call our church (I think I saw someone say that in a post) and ask if they have a list of girls and then have them over for a little at a time so I can observe.
I just have to jump in here and say that just because someone goes to church does not mean that they will not hurt a child. Right now in my area a church is declaring bankruptcy because they have paid a lot of money on settlements for their priest(s) sexually abusing children.

So whatever guidelines you set up to decide on a babysitter, use them no matter where the person is from or who refers them.

(For an example--my mother-in-law molested all of her children and yet she is currently a family counselor in the community and in the church she goes to.)

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Old 07-25-2004, 05:33 PM
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Hi there, I have 3 children and we pay our sitter fairly well when we go out. Usually 5-6 an hour but if it is only for a few hours I always give her 20 dollars as she could have baby sat all evening for someone else and made that much. We don't go out a lot but my sitter will always come when we need her because we do pay well and she will do dishes and clean up , she is like a dream come true. When we tell the kids we are going out they can hardly wait for us to leave. As a daycare sitter I want my sitter to know that I appreciate what she does.

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Old 10-16-2004, 01:55 PM
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I pay my babysitter more depending on the time of the day..a flat rate at night; if they are sleeping and she has nothing to do; but just be there.....and she's fine with that...
If she is babysitting during the day; then i pay her $5 for the first two for an hour and then add on and extra $5 for my toddler...(he's like two rolled into )
And; yes my babysitter cleans up after the kids...sometimes she will straighten out any room i haven't during the day....and puts them to bed like i do..with snuggles and prayers....
if i use the same babysitter during the year; i will give a bonus on the holidays to show how much we appreciate her....and not just her services....
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