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Old 08-13-2009, 03:53 AM
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Jan Brady Syndrome

I have 3 children, and my middle child (girl, 13) is having some trouble with "Jan Brady Syndrome." She feels like nothing she does is right and that she is always left out.

We have always tried hard to make sure that doesn't happen. In many ways she has gotten "more" than either of her brothers.

Any suggestions on how I can help her out?
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Old 08-13-2009, 04:41 AM
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Barb, you have one girl sandwiched between 2 boys, right? What if you sat her down and told her how special she is being the only girl. Give her a few privileges that her brothers do not have. I don't know what her interests are, but they could be helping you create recipes, test recipes on FC, or going down to the ceramic shop and create things, and so on. These should be things that the boys do NOT want to do and your DD would feel so special that she is getting to do these activities and the brothers wouldn't feel like she is being treated better than them.

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13 year old girl? My prayers are with you... I'm only half joking. 13 is the absolute worst time for girls... Just be patient, remind her that what is right for her may not seem fair, but that you love her and that's the bottom line. You simply won't be able to "win" or prove her wrong about her feelings of mistreatmentandinadequacy. Keep telling her when you recognize her talent, and praise the positive. Limit the criticisms, and don't compare her to her siblings or to either you or her dad. She won't sow it but she'll be listening. Just keep up the praise when earned, limit the harshness of the punnishments, respect some right to privacy and accept that she probably will start to treat you like you're an idiot for the next couple of years. My daughters are soon to be 20 and 16. It doesn't last forever, but they both went through it at this age. I hated it, but I remember being that way too...
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