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Moms of 3 or More Do you have 3 or more children? Often times, parents with 3 or more kids face challenges that those of 1 or 2 just do not. This board was set up for those parents to ask others how they cope with issues such as making time for each child, who stays u

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Old 04-28-2005, 05:57 PM
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"Boy Mom" or "Girl Mom"

Yesterday a friend said to me, "You're such a BOY MOM!" This was after I had encouraged my busy 3 year old son to defend the backyard from the "bad guys" by racing around with his toy sword.
I have 3 children; 2 boys and a girl in the middle. But I do seem to be more comfortable with play activities stereotypically associated with boys (involving trucks, dinosaurs, knights, pirates, etc) rather than girls (dolls, hair, makeup). I love to cook, though! Maybe it's just that I had a boy first and got used to things....I don't think she meant it as an insult, but it did get me wondering if I'm somehow failing my daughter because I really don't engage in those girly things with her--and she wants to--I am just clueless about them, always have been!
Guess I am rambling here. But I think I'm just interested in knowing if it's normal to relate more easily to your children of one gender over the other--even if it's not the one that matches yours!
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Old 04-29-2005, 03:23 AM
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Gee, I never thought of this either!

But, now, I know I was more of a "tomboy" growing up. I always wanted to play with my big brother.

I have three girls, and one boy. And now that you mention it, I really am not on either side!!

I prefer to have the kids do things that "go both ways".

Such as riding bike, swinging on swings, in-line skating, pogoing, scootering, playing ball, playing with Fisher Price little people.

And the more I think of it. All three of my girls have played better with boys since they were little. And not that they were flirts! They just seemed to like to play the "boy" stuff.

I think being a "boy" mom or a "girl" mom has a lot to do with a lot of factors:

1. Mom's upbringing (if you were brought up around boys you will probably prefer boy activities, and be better assoicated with what boys like to do)
2. Mom's activity level (if you are active, you will most likely come off as liking to do boy activies)
3. Mom's preferences (if you like to do boy things, than you will be more of a "boy" mom, if you like to do girl things, than you would be more of a "girl" mom.
4. Child's Environment (same as Mom's upbringing, if the child is around mostly boys, than she will prefer to do boy things)
5. Child's activity level (if you have an active child, than the child would prefer to defend the backyard from the "bad guys" by racing around with his toy sword. Rather than sit and just have a tea party, or play house, not enough activity)

This is a very good pondering question!!

I don't think you are cheating your daughter. I think if she wanted/wants to do something she will! I am guessing your daughter had/has baby dolls(she might be growing out of this stage), and a some type of tea set, and of course the ever loved barbies. But other than that what is just a "girl" thing????

If your DD wants her hair braided and you braid it for her you are not "cheating" her. If she wants her nails painted and you paint them you ar not cheating her. If of course you allow these things.

Not to mention this day in age, I think parents should encourage, girls to play with trucks, play in the mud, climb trees(with caution), build with wood. And vice versa, boys should be encouraged to have a tea party occassionally, play with baby dolls, play with barbies, even if it is just when they are alone. Or with a sibling or parent.

I will need to think on this one more!!

When I was young, I always said I wanted to be someone...I guess I should have been more specific!
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Old 05-14-2005, 06:05 PM
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Cant help too much here cuz i have one of each.. daughters going on 12 and sons going on 7
We do things to involve both kids too!

Kickball, dodgeball, baseball, volleyball, swimming, pingpong, trampoline, handball..bowling, things like that!

We play games and stuff with them.

I guess you should just try to do things that go both ways, but hey if your daughters comfy with what shes doin then dont worry to much about it!
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Still am in alot of ways too...dont wear dresses or skirts unless I HAVE to.. and I like mens clothes better than mone usually!
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