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Old 10-22-2003, 01:47 PM
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How many hours a day

How many hours a day do you spend with your spouse? In the morning and in the evenings...
And how much quality "Us" time do you have?

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Old 10-23-2003, 06:37 PM
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What would that be? DH works two jobs so I can be a stay at home mom. We get a few minutes a day five days a week. On his days off we get maybe a half hour. Pretty pathetic but he's got to have time for himself (as do I) and time with the boys plus we're trying to get our home ready to sell so that we can downsize and get him into only one job so we can see him again.
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Old 10-23-2003, 08:10 PM
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DH works away from home a lot - off shore and on oil rigs pulled in to shipyards for repairs.

Usually when he is home...........

Most mornings, I get up at 5:45 am - he gets up at approx. 7:00 am and is out the door and on his way to work by 7:25 am.

Afternoons, he gets home somewhere around 5:00 pm and spends time with the two DS while I cook dinner. Although, every now & then, he cooks supper.

The two DS go to bed at 8:00 pm and DH is usually heading to bed by 9:30. During that 90 minute window, DH & I catch up on things and discuss any decisions that have to be made. (except when Monday Night Football is on!)

After DH goes to bed, I catch up on any household chores that need to be done B/4 I go to bed.

"Us" time???? What is that???

I can't even begin to tell you that last time DH & I had a "date night" or anything even close!

Hey trainlady - you forgot to answer your own question again !!!
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Old 11-04-2003, 02:50 PM
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I guess I purposefully didn't answer this one because I was so frustrated about the little time we DO have together! It was good to read I am not alone though with this can be very hard though on a marriage. Like both of you, I also have very little time with my husband. He works days and I work of us is always going to work while the other one is going to bed!!! It gets really old but we both have to work and there are very few jobs in our area to be had but if I had my druthers I would be working days.

I need to get more of the housework and errands done during the week so I don't have it all piled up for Saturday, which is the only whole day we have together.

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Old 11-04-2003, 04:00 PM
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You know, my husband and I are home all the time now, yet we still don't get much ALONE time.
He is off work yet again on disability and I am for the most part a SAH homeschooling mom. I recently started working part time from home because our finances are very strained (more so than before) because my husband has been off work so much the last year+. We've never been able to keep a date night because we rarely have money to go do anything outside the home and when we do we feel we need to take the kiddies with us
Maybe things will change when the kids are older?? I don't have any solution, but you are definately not the only one !!
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Old 11-04-2003, 05:55 PM
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Trainlady ~~~~ They say it is even harder when you are retired and together all of the time. Some men follow their wives around from morning to night. Glad my Dh keeps himself active in mind and body. It is great being retired if you are both in good health and have good income. This has been the best time of my life. Live in an Adult Community with a club house & pool so there is always something to do. Most look younger and act younger than their ages.
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Old 11-10-2003, 10:54 AM
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Hi Sueann,
You know, I never even thought of looking at it that way!! I guess you just naturally want the opposite of what you have!! LOL!!! In your case though it sounds like both you and your husband do keep very busy and use your time well! Also, it seems like you have chose a beautiful community to retire in!!

I am learning to make the best of our little time off together and meanwhile, the bills are getting paid off and THAT is good!!

We went to the movies on Saturday and then had dipped cones from the Dairy Queen!!. It was a fun afternoon!!

Abear, Julie and happyhomescholler, it's GOOD to know I am not alone!! I guess we just have to be more creative then others in order to carve out "Us Time" with our spouses!!

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Old 02-06-2004, 03:59 PM
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Good question....wish I had a good answer....

DH works 4 10-hour days plus about 6 hours on a 5th day. He leaves the house at 6 AM, has a 1 hour commute to work, and gets home at 6 PM on 2 nights a week, and goes to school (full time equivalent) 2 nights a week and is not home until well after 10. Weekends he studies.

He is so consumed with work and school, and the kids really want to be with Daddy, so "marriage time" comes last. Not to mention time for me to be by myself and recharge MY batteries.

I am getting VERY tired of "In a year and a half, things will be much better" (that's when he's done with school).
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Old 02-09-2004, 09:01 AM
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Old 02-19-2004, 11:33 AM
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about 5 hours per night, and all day on his days off, twice per week..........Not sure if it's "quality" because I am usually taking care of the kids also...
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