How long??

megrayau · #1 (**permalink**) 07-11-2008, 05:16 AM

How long have you and your partner been together?

Have the years (or months) been more good than bad?

What is the secret to keeping things on track for the long haul?

Navy wife in Missipp · #2 (**permalink**) 12-13-2008, 09:06 AM

It will be 45 years tomorrow, Dec. 14,
We have had our good times and bad times, more good times. We have 4 grown children, 3 boys, 1 girl.
i use to say we stayed married for so long because, he who filed for divorce go all the kids. Ha! Ha!

barbszy · #3 (**permalink**) 12-13-2008, 10:46 AM

We will celebrate 18 years of marriage on Jan. 15, 2009. We met exactly 1 year before we were married.

As Navy wife said, there have been good and not-so-good times. But more good than bad!

megrayau · #4 (**permalink**) 12-13-2008, 04:51 PM

We celebrated 22 years in September.
We have been through some tough times and usually survived them no problems. It is more the normal day to day stuff that causes some stresses!
Trying to treat hubby as I would a friend is one way that I try to remember, rather than taking him for granted!

danstigerangel · #5 (**permalink**) 12-13-2008, 04:58 PM

We have been married 5 years but together for 7. Like you all say we have had some quarrels. Usually kid oriented, but! Anyway, I wouldn't want any toher person. He is the best.!

kathymac · #6 (**permalink**) 12-14-2008, 05:15 AM

We celebrated 24 years this past October. There have been great times, some less than great times and some even less great times. Most of the less great times occurred since our dds became teenagers! We are good friends and talk a lot. I have truly been blessed.

Kathy

Navy wife in Missipp · #7 (**permalink**) 12-14-2008, 03:52 PM

Ladies, We have all been blessed!

Sueanne · #8 (**permalink**) 12-14-2008, 06:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by megrayau

How long have you and your partner been together?

Have the years (or months) been more good than bad?

What is the secret to keeping things on track for the long haul?

I was married 53 years in Nov. Went out for two years before that.

All the years were good together. Married young and had time to grow and learn about life.

The secret is to have love & respect for your partner & not say things you will be sorry for in heat of an arguement.
Keeping your own identity makes you a better wife or husband. One should not rule over the other.
_______
Sueanne

Navy wife in Missipp · #9 (**permalink**) 12-14-2008, 06:12 PM

How True

DebiB · #10 (**permalink**) 12-19-2008, 10:51 PM

I really need some advice ladies. We've (Bob and I) been together 23 years although we're not legally married. He is twiced divorced before me and 73 years young. I just turned 52. We have raised my daughter from my previous marriage together since she was 3 y.o. and he is indeed her dad! He also has 3 children from his previous marriage, which ended in divorce over 30 years ago. I'm now at the point in my life and ours together where I'm beginning to worry about the future. I haven't worked in over 20 years and doubt I'd have any legal standing if and when, God forbid, something were to happen to him. If I bring it up he continues to tell me we don't need a piece of paper & that he'll always love me. Frankly, it was never important to me either but if I'm not mistaken I wouldn't be entitled to any of his benefits as a wife would be, i.e. SSI, etc. even though we've been together longer then a lot of married couples we know! The only protection I think I have is that I bought the condo we share in my name over 28 years ago, although 1 of his daughters has made many statements about how her father paid for it. NOT TRUE. I did with a settlement I received years ago, although he has helped with the ongoing bills like taxes, utilities, etc. I'm really lost as to where to go or who to talk to. Has anyone been through anything like this or have any suggestions?