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Old 11-12-2002, 12:54 PM
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Question Expecting Child #2`

After multiple miscarriages and thinking I would never have any more children, I found out I was pregnant back in May.

The pregnancy has gone smoothly with only a couple minor bumps. I am due on January 6th.

I am at that point in my pregnancy where I am worrying about things! ;-)

1.) What are the chances that this next delivery (not necessarily the labor) will go quicker?

2.) How will I adjust to two kids? I have a 3YO boy. And this one is a boy. I am hoping that Justin will be OK with his new brother. He is excited about it now, but I can't help being worried.

3.) Did anyone have post partum depression? If so, is it true that it is worse with each subsequent child? Did your doctor put you on any medication?

4.) I had Natural Childbirth last time. I don't want that again! Yet, I don't want an epidural. Did anyone get that medication that takes the edge off? If so, do you recommend it? What was it called?

5.) Just because I am having a second child does not mean I cannot carry out my career goals later, right? (Please agree with me here!) ;-)

6.) I know each child and each pregnancy is different. But what do you think are the probabilities of having this child earlier than its due date...later than its due date? My son was born on his due date. For my mother, I was born 3 weeks early. Her contractions started at 11:30 PM, and I was born at 12:01 AM. I am also concerned with anextra speedy delivery!

Any other suggestions to help calm and over-active thinker during insomniac hours?

And yes, I plan to ask these questions of my doctor...but I am killing time between visits!
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Old 11-12-2002, 06:13 PM
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Hi Jen!

I was in labor for 21 hours with my first baby and about 3 hours with my second. So, yes, I think those second babies come a little bit faster. I was two weeks overdue with both of them, so that didn't change with the second one.

You'll adjust fine to the new baby. Make sure you tell Justin "Oh, look the baby's smiling at you" and things like that. I think it really helped my dd accept my ds. And 3 is a good age for a new sibling to arrive. He will love to help.

No, I didn't have post-partum depression. I sympathize with anyone who does; I wish more doctors would, too.

I had both of my kids without epidurals or anything, so can't help you with that question.

So relax!! Everything will be fine. My kids are 8 and 11, and I've survived. So far.

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Old 11-13-2002, 04:49 AM
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Thanks, Raine!

If it goes quicker (my labor was 14 hours with 3.5 hours of pushing), then I can handle this one natural. The labor was fine, it was the pushing that killed me!

I did talk to my doctor last time about post partum depression, as I did have the 1st time around. He said that there was something they could do about it, but not yet, but before the baby was born. So, I was curious as to whatthat was...hormones or some sort of anti-depression drug. The latter scares me. But I would rather do that than be like I was!

Thanks for the tip about the baby smiling. Right now, I am pretending that when the baby kicks that he is saying "hi" to my son. So, I will remember to say your suggestion when he is born! That will help Justin. He is so excited, but I am sure he will be in for a shock when he sees the impact a baby has on a house.

Thanks again for your support!

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Old 11-13-2002, 07:41 AM
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Yes, it's kind of a shock for them. Even if they're excited about the new baby, they expect the baby to be fun and playing with them. And then this bundle arrives and they cry a lot, etc. It's an adjustment. But, at about six months, the older sibling begins to have a lot of fun making the baby laugh, etc. My dd used to pretend she was blowing a candle (her finger) out; my ds would roar with laughter.
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