Visit for tons of seasonal ideas!
quick link - go to our home page quick link - kid's crafts, family fun, printables, etc quick link - sign up for our free newsletter quick link - holiday crafts, recipes and ideas quick link - gardening, organizing, saving money, decorating and more quick link - our FunBook is filled with lots of quick ideas, tips and crafts quick link - join our bustling community of friendly members

Go Back Forums > Parenting > Parenting Issues > College Parents

College Parents Full time or part time student and taking care of kids? Talk to others in your boat!

Thread Tools Rate Thread
  #1 (permalink)  
Old 04-03-2005, 06:18 PM
Nine Year Member
FamilyCorner Groupie
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: The Golden State
Posts: 728
College bound child

I have a question for all parents of college age/college bound children. My dd has received acceptances from many colleges and we're very proud of her. The problem is that she always had issues when it comes to making decisions. Since this is probably the biggest decision she has ever made, the stress (and her attitude!) is unbelievable! If we try to help her assess her choices, she says that we are showing favoritism to a particular school. If we try to stay out of the entire process, she doesn't bother to look up the necessary info on her own. She is extremely bright and capable (she has been accepted to UCLA and UC Berkeley along with other great schools), but she has a lazy streak when it comes to decision-making. Our ds is now in his second year of college, and it was a simple matter for him to choose a school. Anybody have any suggestions of how to approach this?
Reply With Quote
  #2 (permalink)  
Old 04-08-2005, 05:55 PM
Seven Year Member
FamilyCorner Newbie
Join Date: Jan 2004
Location: Georgia
Posts: 8
We are facing the same challenge. Last year, my son made the decision on his own to move in with his dad. That decision has turned out to be terrible for him, and now we are facing the college decision. He is afraid to make the wrong choice again, because it seems so permanent.
Some good advice that we have received is to make a chart. List characteristics, such as food quality, price, weather, housing, distance from home, etc. listing the things that are important to you, along with some minor things. For each of these categories grade the colleges with a 1, 2, or 3...but no 2 colleges can receive the same score for any category. For example, if you like the housing of school A & B equally, find something to make one better than the other. For housing, school A might get a "1", school B a "3" and school C a "2". After you fill in the chart, add the scores up for each school. I am told that although the schools appear to be almost equal, these tiny preferences will make a difference, and make the score obvious...which will make the decision easier.
I hope this helps. I am really praying for my son to make the decision that is best for him, too.
If your daughter is putting off the decision, perhaps you can make the chart and tell her to fill in the grading numbers. Give her a deadline, and schedule a trip to Steak N Shake for ice cream to discuss the results. Most kids will do anything ending in ice cream.
Taking it one day at a time.
Reply With Quote
  #3 (permalink)  
Old 04-08-2005, 07:22 PM
Nine Year Member
FamilyCorner Groupie
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: The Golden State
Posts: 728
Thank you, Theresa! I really like your chart suggestion (by the way, ice cream bribes work for me, too!)!!
Reply With Quote
  #4 (permalink)  
Old 04-11-2005, 04:26 AM
Nine Year Member
FamilyCorner Admirer
Join Date: Feb 2002
Location: Hickory, NC
Posts: 186
I suggest either a college fair or touring her top choices this will usually help her make a wise choice and will also make you feel better with the one she choses to attend.
Reply With Quote
  #5 (permalink)  
Old 04-11-2005, 09:38 AM
Nine Year Member
FamilyCorner Groupie
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: The Golden State
Posts: 728
Thank you, Deidra!
Reply With Quote

Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
Thread Tools
Rate This Thread
Rate This Thread:

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is Off
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Child leashes and harnesses Amanda Toddlers 56 05-27-2015 03:08 AM
Helping Your Child Look Forward to School ajrsmom Elementary Aged Kids 1 05-09-2015 10:59 AM
Kindergarten Readiness Checklist ajrsmom Preschoolers & Kindergartners 6 06-14-2007 07:53 AM
Been There Done That! Toilet Training Tips ajrsmom Toddlers 3 06-05-2006 07:47 PM
Helping Your Child Look Forward to School ajrsmom Elementary Aged Kids 1 08-02-2005 05:40 AM

All times are GMT -8. The time now is 03:19 PM.

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2018, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
SEO by vBSEO 3.6.1
Copyright 2018 MH Sub I, LLC dba Internet Brands. All rights reserved. Use of this site indicates your consent to the Terms of Use.


Our Family FunBook is packed full of ideas from parents just like you!

Our members say that they have never found a friendlier message board community than ours!

Our kid's craft section is filled with easy ideas for creative little minds.

We have tons of free printable coloring pages to keep your little ones happy.

We offer a wide variety of free newsletters delivered right to your inbox.

Our Household Hints & Tips have a wealth of information on cleaning, organizing, and more!
Go to the funbook Go to forums Go to kid's crafts Go to printables Go to newsletters Go to Hints & Tips

Home || Newsletters || Advertising || Terms of Use || Privacy || Services || Submissions || Contact Us || Media Opportunities || Link To Us || Shop || Feedback || Staff || e-Cards || Reminder Service® is sponsored in part by...

Visit our friends --> MomsMenu | Main Street Mom | She Knows | Baby University | Personal Fitness Zone |

Copyright Notice | Privacy Policy | Terms of Use/Disclaimer