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Old 04-18-2003, 05:43 AM
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Possibility of ADHD in 14 y.o. son

My son has been having problems in school since the 2nd grade. He is now in the 8th grade.

My problem is I have asked the school that he was in, in third grade to evaluate him for ADD, they observed him and said `no, he shows no signs of ADD' they insisted it was just him. Again, in 6th grade different school district, I asked them again to evaluate him for ADD, they once again said they observed him and did not see any signs of ADD.

Well, now he is in 8th grade, his grades are bad, they say he is immature, his actions in school are distasteful, he is unattentive, comes to class unprepared, he appears tired in class....on and on. So, the guidance counselor referred him to the school psychologist (I think that is what they said she is..at this point it doe not matter, I need help with him) for an evaluation, with my approval.

Well, yesterday, I received a call from his health teacher, he was disgusted with my son, he said 'he just does things, like in the hall, he is immature on and on, but would not tell me exactly what my son did!

So, before ds got home from school, I called the guidance counselor, she had the "psychologist" call me. The school psychologist met with son that day, and called me back. She asked if anything about ADHD was ever mentioned to me, I explained to her about 3rd and 6th grade and being observed. She said observing is not enough.

Well, when ds got home from school, I asked him what happened, here they watched a baby being born and it grossed him out, I guess he commented on it and the teacher told him he wasn't worth it. My point here is that ds was embarassed by the birth of a baby being shown, (I think this would be normal in a 13 y.o. 8th grade boy). But, the teacher could not tell me what was going on, I think he was embarassed to tell me. I don't think a teacher should be teaching this stuff to teenagers if he is too embarassed to remark on it to an adult!!!

But, back to the ADHD, I spoke to DH about it and he nearly flipped, and said my son is not going on any drugs for anything. So we will see if he is even ADHD.

Why did it take 6 years for someone to finally see this? When I have been slightly suspicious since?

Any input on this would be really appreciated!!!

Karen
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Old 04-18-2003, 05:59 AM
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Karen my 7 yo granddauther has been diagnosed ADD. There is NO shame in this! The only shame is in the schools failure to help. Her first grade teacher ahs taught for years (she's older than me and I'm 49) and she still failed to recognize the problem. Her solution was to try and hold her back. This is a bright little girl too! We moved last summer and she's in a new school where the principal and teacher are fabulous help.

My advice is do NOT rely on the school for help or testing. Take your son ASAP to a REAL psychologist and have him tested. DH should attend the results meeting with you. There are medications that are NOT habit forming (Strattera is what my dgd is on.) She was on Concerta which is a great drug but can be abit forming and caused her to zone out. Strattera doesn't do this. At any rate, once tested if he has ADD the spychologist will help you make the decision for how to treat. BTW it IS possible to treat it through diet but it's a longer process. I've read it suggested that diet and drug therapy be used together until you get a handle on it.

There is an ADD thread http://www.familycorner.com/forums/s...&threadid=6043

where we have been discussing this. Stop by--we're here to support one another.

And by all means--get your son tested independently of the school and make dh go!

I'm in total agreement on the teacher too. Was this a mixed classroom? I don't care HOW enlightened our society is supposed to be, this is NOT material that should be shown in a mixed class.

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Old 04-18-2003, 06:31 AM
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Thank you Jayne for your input, he has a Dr. (physical) appt. on Monday, and I am going to mention it to him. I think my ins. requires a referral for a psychologist, so this will be my first step. I hope.

When he was 2 y.o. he would throw tantrums...extreme, he has a scar on the side of his face from when he was about 2, I wanted to change his diaper, and he did not want it changed and threw a fit, he had a toy in his hand and scratched the side of his face with the toy, and to this day still has the scar. One time we were at the grocery store and he threw a tantrum, we left the store, dh had to grab him, kicking and screaming, so he would not run out into the parking lot on his own. People were staring at us and wrote our lisc plate # down, I think they thought we were kidnapping him.

dh is not supportive of him, he makes me so mad he keeps saying he will grow out of it. But yet on the other hand he keeps saying I was not like that when I was his age. Go figure.

I will do this on my own if it is what it takes to get him taken care of, I feel so bad for him, the psychologist even said he his such a polite kid, and she could not believe the reports the teachers were giving about him. She said he admitted he would like to do better in school but he can't.

As, for the birth of the baby being shown in an 8th grade mixed class, am I wrong thinking this is too early to show such a thing? I mean he explained it too me, and from what he said they showed the actual birth of a child coming out, vaginally. I mean, yes by all means sex education should be taught at this age, but the actual birth of a child? Isn't that extreme. I am very upset about this. We never even seen that until 10th or 11th grade and that was electively!!!

Please anyone else have insight on this, I am wrong in thinking that showing this is extreme at this age? Maybe it is ok for the females, but males?

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Old 04-18-2003, 06:42 AM
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Karen--when I was in high school eons ago, they took us to the theater to watch a show like this. BOYS went with boys and girls went with girls on separate trips. Even in this day and age this is the appropriate way to do this in my mind. HOWEVER let me say too that I think 8th grade is way too young.

One thing we learned with the testing is that it's often (not always mind you) hereditary. We are firmly convinced that my es-s-i-l is undiagnosed ADD. To this day he has trouble with being easily bored and making good decisions. (A BIG reason they are divorced now).

Good luck on the referral. One thing I also learend from watching a news porgramonce is that MEDICAL doctors should not attempt to diagnose or medicate ADD. they are not trained in the usage of these drugs andit could be dangerous. Don't let that scare you, just forewarn you.

Please update as to how things go. It's not too late to get help--my nephew was in 7th grade when he was diagnosed and he graduated last year!

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Old 04-18-2003, 07:04 AM
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Thank you for reassuring my thoughts of this being to young to watch such a thing, and this was not even mentioned to the parents, that this was going to be shown. So much for PA on watching TV, isn't that what movie ratings are for?

As far as the hereditary thing goes, I am almost positive my DH also has a slight case of it. He can never stick to a hobby, makes poor decisions, that is why I have to take care of the checkbook and childrearing, he has admitted to not being able to care for the kids like he should be able to, but he does do the best that he can. He will not admit to ADD, in fact, he got very offensive once when I mentioned it too him that he was ADD.

Thank you for the input on the Drs, and treating ADD, I will keep this in mind as we go through all of this. But, the group of Drs that we go too are really good about referring to a specialist, so I don't think I will have a problem with that. They seem to like to stick to the minor medical problems, and send them to a specialist for the biggies, I am actually thankful for that.

I will keep you updated, as I said he has a Dr. appt. on Monday, and then I have a meeting on Thursday with the school, so they can evaluate him as a toddler and such. I hope I can remember everything, from when he was a toddler, that is a long time ago, and my mom watched him alot, then.

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