It's one thing to leave your bedroom messy, but when you're sleeping in a living area....that's a problem.
It sounds like Dad is having a hard time being the Dad. Maybe he doesn't want to have to discipline them, because then he will be the Bad Guy. He probably wants to earn their affection by letting them do as they want.
You COULD invest in a couple of nice "basket hampers" or something, that won't look totally out of place in the room, and when the kids are awake, their stuff has to be in there.
At ages 9 and 11 they are big enough to pick up their own messes. But the grownups have to follow up on that. Most kids that age won't clean up voluntarily.
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