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Old 01-13-2002, 01:38 PM
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I just had to share this, sorry it is soooooo long

Oh by the way,
I just wanted to say hi Kelly and thanks for the welcome.
Oh yes, and hi to you too Amanda I am glad I found you all here. I look forward to reading all your stories,meantime I have one now that I recieved from a friend of mine via an e-mail
A few months ago, when I was picking up the children at school, another mom I knew well,rushed up to me. She was fuming.

"Do you know what you and I are?" she demanded.

Before I could answer, and I didn't really have one handy, she blurted out the reason for her question. It seemed she had just returned from renewing her driving liscence at the County Clerk's office. Asked by the woman recorder to state her occupation.

My friend hesitated, uncertain how to classify herself.

"What I mean is" explained the recorder "do you have a job or are you just a......?"

"Of course I have a job," snapped my friend "I'm a mother."

"We don't list Mother as an occupation...Housewife covers it," said the recorder emphatically.

I forgot all about her story until oneday I found myself in the same situation. This time at our Town Hall. The clerk was obviously a career woman, poised, efficient, and possessed of a high-sounding title like Official Interrogator or Town Rigistrar.

"And what is your occupation?" she probed.

What made me say it,I do not know. the words simply popped out. "I'm a Research Assosiate in the field of Child Development and Human Relations."

The clerk paused, ball point pen frozen in mid air, and looked up as though she had not heard right. I repeated the title slowly, emphasizing the most significant words. Then I stared with wonder as my pompous pronouncement was written in bold, black ink on the official questionnaire.

"Might I ask" said the clerk with new interest, "just what you do in your field?"

Cooly without any trace of fluster in my voice, I heard myself reply, " I have a continuing program of research (what mother doesn't) in the laboratory and in the field (normally I would have said indoors and out). I'm working for my Masters ( the whole damed family) and already have four credits ( all daughters)." "Of course the job is one of the most demandingin the Humanities(any mother care to disagree?) and I often work 14 hours a day (24 is more like it). But the job is more challenging than most run-of-the-mill careers and the rewards are in satisfaction rather than just money."

There was an increasing note of respect in the clerk's voice as she completed the form, stood up, and personally ushered me to the door.

As I drove into the driveway, buoyed up by my glamorous new career, I was greeted by my lab assistants-ages 13, 7 and 3. Upstairs I could hear our new experimental model (6 months)in the child develoment program, testing out a new vocal pattern. I felt triumphant, I had scored a point on bureaucracy! And I had gone on the official records as someone more distinguished and indispensable to mankind than just "another mother."

Motherhood......what a glorius career. Especially when there's a title on the door.

Whether a stay at home Mom or a career Mom, we should all carry this title.

I hope you like that,
Ciao for now,
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