Forums - View Single Post - Fantastic Family Reunions
View Single Post
  #1 (permalink)  
Old 06-05-2004, 07:26 AM
ajrsmom's Avatar
ajrsmom ajrsmom is offline
Nine Year Member
FamilyCorner Postaholic
Join Date: Feb 2002
Location: Originally from the Home of the only 6 times Super Bowl Champs!
Posts: 11,872
Fantastic Family Reunions

by Kelly Huckaby

The summer months are fast approaching, and with them comes the desire to reconnect with family members. There's a good chance that you, like millions of other people, will do your reconnecting at a family reunion. "The summer months are the busiest time for reunions because school is out," notes Deanna Jagemann, a former reunion planner. If you've been put in charge of organizing this year's big event, try out a few of the ideas mentioned here.


Reunions take a little planning. Deanna recommends that people plan reunions at least one year in advance, if possible. This allows for families to receive the best group rates for resorts, cruises and hotels. While you are planning your reunion, consider some of these ideas to help your event be truly memorable:

Create a newsletter to be mailed twice a year: one month before the reunion and five months after. For the "Before the Reunion" mailing include the date and location of the upcoming event, information for those needing overnight accommodations, items that family members may need to bring, and a list of activities planned for the reunion. For the "After the Reunion" mailing include highlights from the reunion, updated information on family members (like new addresses, births & deaths, marriages, etc.) and any plans already made for the next event.

Have each family group wear matching, solid-color T-shirts. Personalize them with family group names printed on the back of each. Ajay's family made their T-shirts extra special. "The design was appropriate to our immigration history," says this pastor's wife, and mother of two from Minnesota, who writes and teaches. "Our parents all came from Norway to a small town in North Dakota. The design included the family name, national flags, and a background map with a bright arrow going from the town in Norway to the town in North Dakota."

Family Photos
Family members can bring pictures from the past year for a Reunion Photo Album. Designate someone to bring it to each event for updating, or create a new one each time to present to the oldest family member in attendance.

Covered Dish
Unless you are having the meal catered, each family will probably need to bring a covered dish to pass. A nice addition to any family meal is the exchange of recipes. Request that attendees bring a dish that is a family recipe. One person can then compile those recipes and pass out "cookbooks" at the next reunion!


Fundraisers can take on various forms and the money raised has many uses. A family fund has been created by the extended family of Teresa, a small country store owner and mother of three from North Carolina. The money they raise at their reunions is used to help a family member in need (one year a cousin's home burned down) or it is donated to a charity in memory of a family member who has passed away during the year. But, for most families, the funds raised are used to offset the costs of the reunion itself. Here are some creative ways to raise those funds:

Each family member brings an item to donate and tickets are sold for a dollar each. Numbers are then drawn, and when your ticket number is called you get to pick an item from the table. Some families have two categories: one for adults and one for children. "Each child is guaranteed a prize," states Kelly, a home daycare provider and mother of two from Michigan. "The money from the raffle goes towards the rental of the pavilion and the meat."

Similar to a raffle, this activity also includes donated items brought by family members. Instead of picking numbers, family members bid on each item and out-bid each other. "We generally end up with enough money to pay for postage, the rental of the picnic area, and sodas for everyone to have a couple," notes Bonnie, a homemaker and mother of three from Pennsylvania. Some of the money raised also goes towards purchasing prizes for the kids' games.

Have each family bring a card table and set up "booths" for various carnival-type activities. Face painting, Ring Toss, Sink-the-Putt, and Fishpond are just a few ideas - be creative! Party supply stores and mail order companies offer inexpensive games and prizes for you to choose from.


What to do with all those children? They'll only sit still for so long before they get fidgety, so you better be prepared with some activities for them. Here are a few suggestions that have worked for others:

Kids' Table
A table set up with activities for children can be staffed by teens. "We're still trying to find ways to make it more enjoyable for all age groups," says Dianne, a commercial banker and mother of one from New Jersey. One thing they tried was having the children write essays. Each child then reads their essay aloud and receives a prize for writing it. Other popular activities for the Kids' Table include: creating a personal family tree; crafting a dream catcher; word puzzles using family names; guess-the-number games using candy pieces or marbles in glass jars; and scavenger hunt lists with plastic bags.

Sawdust Game
"[The sawdust game] is the most famous part of the reunion" according to Jeannie, an Executive Assistant and mother of two from California. One person is in charge of bringing a truckload of sawdust that is dumped out on a big tarp on the ground. Small treats like wrapped candy, coins and small party-favor-type items are then mixed into the pile. Everyone then gathers around and they take turns (youngest to oldest) digging through the sawdust for treasure. "Sometimes there would still be people digging through the sawdust hours after the main dig," she said.

Moving Games
A game that keeps the kids moving is a sure winner at any reunion, especially if it helps them to sit still later for the meal. Bonnie was in charge of buying prizes for the kids' games for more then ten years. Favorite games that her extended family enjoys playing are Duck, Duck, Goose; Pop the Balloon; Peanut Scramble; and Simon Says. "Anything so that all the kids get a prize," she said.


Kids aren't the only ones who enjoy a good game and a good laugh. Many families use these activities to keep the adults entertained:

Talent Show
Jeannie's family really enjoys participating in these shows. Kids sing songs they've learned over the past year, cousins perform dances, and uncles sing silly songs in opera-style voices. Everybody who wants to can get their fifteen minutes of fame.

Another tradition for Jeannie's family is the Saturday night sing-along. "After dinner we gather around the campfire and sing all kinds of campfire songs," both silly and sentimental. "It was such a wonderful tradition," she added.

Sports Competitions
Softball tops the list for games, but there's also horseshoes, volleyball, badminton, Frisbee, tennis and golf. Even horseback riding, boating and skiing are popular according to Deanna.


All the activities mentioned so far are a wonderful way to fill up the day, but be sure to work in some unstructured time as well. "Having down-time with family members is also an activity that is requested," states Deanna. "Time to sit around with photo albums and home movies is desirable. It can be the most rewarding time of the reunion because people recall their memories with their family members." If you need a few ice-breakers to get the conversations and memories started, try these:

Award Ceremonies
Purchase inexpensive, small trophies or create certificates for this fun ice-breaker. Find out who in attendance traveled the farthest? Who has the most children? Who is the oldest? Who is the newest member of the family?

Make a New Friend
Let your family members know that there will be a test at the close of the reunion. Each member will be required to introduce one new friend that they have made that day, and tell how that friend is related to them. A variation of this would be to have someone make up a list of interesting facts on 10 people. As family members mingle, they can be finding out who matches each fact. Be sure to award prizes to the people who get all their facts straight.

"What's in Your Purse?"
This is a fun way to see what/if things have changed over the years. Compare what different female attendees have in their purses. What types of things does great-aunt Nancy carry in her purse that the younger mothers don't? Do the younger members carry any modern technology in their purses that their grandmothers didn't?

Whatever you decide to do, be sure to relax, have fun and take lots of pictures. Keep it as simple and stress-free as possible, and be sure to delegate responsibilities. Remember, it's a family reunion!

Visit my blogs **

Tami's Kitchen Table Talk

Simple, easy-to-cook family recipes
and lots of good conversation!

Join the Cookie Carnival!
On Hiatus

If you love baking cookies, join our group!

Last edited by ajrsmom; 06-05-2004 at 07:28 AM.
Reply With Quote