How To Deal With Children's Temper Tantrums

* Don't Take The Blame
Keep in mind that this is a normal phase
and not your fault.

* Be Consistent But Reassuring
Do not be blackmailed by tantrums. Show
your child that a tantrum will not get results.

* Distraction
If your child's behavior is becoming difficult,
involve the child in a task and provide a running
commentary on what is happening.

* Give Warnings
Inform your child that if he or she does not
behave, an activity that he or she enjoys will be

* Avoid Provoking A Tantrum
If your child is tired or over-excited, spend
time with him or her. If the child has been away
from home, spend a few minutes reestablishing
your relationship. Be calm and reassuring.

* Give Positive Feedback
If your child has been well-behaved, say so
and show approval.

* Remove All Attention
If you feel your child is playing to an audience,
walk out of the room to show that you are displeased
with the behavior. Return after a few minutes, to
give reassurance.

* Set A Good Example
Your child learns from you. Show that it is
appropriate to express anger but not to lose control.
If you show excessive anger toward your child, be
prepared to apologize. Encourage your child to do
the same after a tantrum.

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