Party Behavior: How to Help Your Child Become a Little Lady or Gentleman

February 12th, 2013 posted by Elizabeth Pantley

blowing out the candles


Every time I take my son to a party his behavior embarrasses me. It’s as if he leaves his manners at home! How can I get my son to behave at these events?

Think about it

Some kids get so caught up in the unusual atmosphere of a party that they forget all they have been taught about manners.


It’s best to use “preventative” parenting when possible. In other words, if you’re invited to a party, spend some time before you arrive at the event to review what behavior is expected of your child. You might even make a list of party rules and review them before leaving the house. While at the party, if his behavior starts to slide, simply remind him of the rules.


If you have a younger child, role-play a few parties at home. Having a “pretend” party will allow you to practice the manners your child will be expected to use. It helps to exaggerate your manners so that they are very obvious to your child.


Avoid correcting or reprimanding your child in front of other guests. Take your child into a private room, such as a bathroom, for a discussion. Keep your comments brief and to the point. Don’t just point out what he has done wrong, give specific instructions about the behavior you want to see instead.


Sometimes, a child’s elaborate expectations of a party don’t match up to the real event. Or sometimes the event is happening so fast, or is so kaleidoscopic that your child is lost in the scramble. The child may be disappointed or overwhelmed and covering these feelings with misbehavior. It may be helpful to remove him from the activity for a few minutes of quiet to help him regroup. Help him focus on the good things that are happening. Give him a glass of water and a hug and a kiss, and then hold his hand as you lead him back to the party. (Excerpted with permission by NTC/Contemporary Publishing Group Inc. from Perfect Parenting, The Dictionary of 1,000 Parenting Tips by Elizabeth Pantley, copyright 1999)

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Elizabeth Pantley is also the president of Better Beginnings, Inc. She is a popular speaker on family issues. Elizabeth’s newsletter, Parent Tips is seen in schools nationwide. She appears as a regular radio show guest and has been quoted in Parents, Parenting, Redbook, Good Housekeeping, American Baby, Twins, Working Mother, and Woman’s Day magazines. You can visit her website at

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