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Kids & Chores
by Elizabeth Pantley
Assigning children household chores
is one of the best ways to build self-esteem and a feeling of competence.
Regular chores establish helpful habits and good attitudes about work. Having
chores also teaches valuable lessons about life and creates an understanding
that there are jobs that must be done to run a household. Children who grow
up perceiving chores as a normal part of life will find the flow into adulthood
much easier than those without responsibility will.
Choose the right chores
Choose age appropriate jobs for children based on their physical and
mental abilities. Most parents underestimate their children's abilities in
this area. Keep in mind that a child who has mastered a complicated computer
game can easily run the dishwasher! Preschoolers can handle one or two simple
daily jobs. Older children can manage two or three daily jobs along with
one or two weekly jobs. (See the suggested list at the end of this
article.)
Take time for training
Don't assume that since your child has seen you do the task that she
can do it herself. Be very specific in your instruction and demonstrate
step-by-step as your child watches. The next step is to let your child help
you, followed by your child doing the chore as you supervise. At the point
you feel that your child has mastered the job she can take over responsibility
for it.
Write it down
Children need a visual daily reminder to keep them on track doing chores.
(This compares to your need for a daily planner sheet or to-do list.) A chore
chart on which a child can make daily check marks is one helpful technique.
An alternative is to use a pegboard made for hanging keys as a holder for
tags that list a daily chore on each one. A child can flip the tags over
as she completes each daily chore. At the end of the day, a parent can check
for any open tags and have the child finish up before getting ready for
bed.
First things first
Use the "when/then" technique. As an example, "When the pets are fed, then
you may have your dinner." As a quiet reminder, the child's dinner plate
can be left upside down, which means: "Run and feed the pets, then you can
eat!" Other when/then routine suggestions are: "When your homework is done,
then you can play outside." "When your pajamas are on and teeth brushed,
then we will read a book." What makes this idea work best is when you follow
the when/then rule every day.
Be specific
Be very specific in your instructions. As an example, "clean your room" is
vague and can be interpreted in any number of ways. Instead, be explicit
by saying, "Put your clothes in the closet, books on the shelf, dishes in
the kitchen and toys in the toy box."
Bonus Day!
Once in a while, just for fun, have a "Coin Collection Day." Prior to having
your child complete her chores, hide pennies, nickels, or dimes around the
house under the items that need to be cleaned. When all the chores are done
to your satisfaction, the child gets to keep the bonus!
Chore list ideas
What follows is a list of ideas from which you can choose a few chores
for your child. The idea is not to turn your child into Cinderella! Simply
review the list, consider your child's age, ability, and personality, and
select chores appropriate for your child. Preschoolers can handle one or
two simple jobs. As children get older and more capable they can handle a
larger quantity of jobs, as well as those that are more complex.
Ages 2 to 3
Put toys away, fill pet's food dish, put clothes in hamper, wipe up spills,
dust, pile books or magazines, choose clothes and dress self.
Ages 4 to 5
Above plus, make own bed, empty wastebaskets, bring in mail or newspaper,
clear table, pull weeds, use hand-held vacuum to pick up crumbs, water flowers,
unload utensils from dishwasher, wash plastic dishes at sink, fix bowl of
cereal.
Ages 6 to 7
Above plus, sort laundry, sweep floors, handle personal hygiene, set and
clear table, help make and pack lunch, weed, rake leaves, keep bedroom tidy,
pour own drinks, answer telephone.
Ages 8 to 9
Above plus, load dishwasher, put away groceries, vacuum, help make dinner,
make own snacks, wash table after meals, put away own laundry, sew buttons,
run own bath, make own breakfast, peel vegetables, cook simple food (such
as toast), mop floor, take pet for a walk, pack own suitcase
Ages 10 and up
Above plus, unload dishwasher, fold laundry, clean bathroom, wash windows,
wash car, cook simple meal with supervision, iron clothes, do laundry, baby-sit
younger siblings (with adult in the home), mow lawn, clean kitchen, clean
oven, change bed, make cookies or cake from box mix, plan birthday party,
have neighborhood job - such as pet care or yard work, or have a paper
route.
About the Author
Elizabeth Pantley is author
of
Perfect
Parenting &
Kid
Cooperation, and president of Better Beginnings, Inc. She is a popular
speaker on family issues. Elizabeth’s newsletter, Parent Tips is seen in
schools nationwide. She appears as a regular radio show guest and has been
quoted in Parents, Parenting, Redbook, Good Housekeeping, American Baby,
Twins, Working Mother, and Woman’s Day magazines. You can visit her website
at
http://www.pantley.com/elizabeth/
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