I always thought that I had a really good relationship with my daughter (14). We often do things together :- Art, cooking/baking, shopping, watch dvd's, play games together on PC etc, Even at 14 she always gives me a kiss goodnight/bye and often sits on my knee for a hug (never embarrassed about doing either)
I was totally horrified when the school rang me and said that they was worried about her and the state of her mental health. She had written something on her school books about hurting herself and suicidal thoughts, I always thought she told me more a less anything, she is never affraid to speak to me about life/sex/etc
I went to school and found she had been self harming a little, so I brought her home and we had a really good talk. Found out there were a few bits at school that was sending her into a 'depression'
I took her to the Dr's and they said she would be ok and that they would contact the school nurse. So we left it at that and she went back to school next day. She seemed like she had picked up again and was laughing and joking and playing on the wii, and later went to her room to do some art work.
We put her to bed at 9.30pm that night and by 10.30pm we had the police banging on our door, they came in and told us that she had contacted child-line saying how bad she felt and that she was feeling suicidal again
We had to get her out of bed so the police could see that she was ok, anyway I ended up keeping her up till 3am talking. I was so scared, my mind was running away with me and I really didn't know how to handle it all. I told her she wasn't going to school next day and we sat and talked a lot again.
I took her phone off her and we made a distraction list on the wall and also a sheet of paper where she wrote how she felt every 30 mins,
I have given her her phone back but only certain hours.
I don't know if I am being unreasonable, I don't know what I should be thinking, not sure what else to do for her
Feeling so sad