Starting fresh

[nagymom]

I am also seriously considering not sticking around to see if he'll get his act together.

((((MrsManiac)))) Vent here any time. We're all friends by now and all trying to get our frugal acts together.

Jayne

Leighann I talked to my dd at noon to ask her to stop for salad on the way home. Darn it though--I forgot to remind her about the tan thing. Now I know where she gets her lousy memory. We WILL find out though.

[janet]

You ladies are doing great...squeezing into size 12. 14, 16, gee I haven't wore that size since High School...I admire you all and your drive to be all that you can be!

Janet

[MrsManiac]

lol Janet--I think I was a size 12 in like the 4th grade! I'm a lot heavier now than I was when I met dh 6 years ago--but I'm a smaller size. Go figure! I was telling the ladies at the gym that my goal is a 12, but they pointed out I could get smaller, since I still have over 50 lbs to go. Hmmm...we'll see. The weight is going to come off regardless, but I never really considered being so little. And believe me, when you weigh over 200 pounds and wear a size 22-24, anything under a 14 is LITTLE!! I hooped on the scale last night--lost another 4 pounds! Considering how I've been eating all weekend, that's a miracle!

Thanks for all the support, guys. I know we can get out of this situation--I'm just sick of all the bs that's coming along with it. I'm spending more in check fees than the bills are, it seems!:mad: I need to get to a dr. about some wierd lumps I've found, I'm so sick of beans and rice I'm ready to gag, and I would sell my soul for a nice dinner in a nice resteraunt without the kids and without dh complaining about everything!! Wah--poor me lol!! But the money just isn't there--and even if it were, we have too many outstanding bills to pay. So I continue to plod along, doing what I can to save a few bucks here and there--and slowly coming to the realization that it's not doing any good. The money I save is'nt paying anything else--it's just more money for dh to waste away. I don't reallly mind cutting down--what I mind is being the only one trying to not spend so much! I'm feeling like a loser--no one else in our family line-dries the laundry, cooks from scratch because they can't afford boxed stuff, or has a hubby driving around in an uninsured car with expired tags because he won't pay the bill!! And if I ask about it, Im basically told he's doing the best he can, I pay the bills so I see where the money is going...yadayadaYAWN! I'm sick of living this way. Literally!!

[nagymom]

it's just more money for dh to waste away.

Been there, done that with my ex. The more we made the more he spent. My dh of 21 years is the opposite and has taught me a LOT about saving and being frugal.

Not trying to be nosy but have you ever spoken with a non-profit credit counselor? My own brother is in a similar situation. His wife ran up HUGE bills all over the place then didn't pay any of the dues. She opened accounts under his name and SS# without telling him then when it all started to come out, she loaded up almost everything in the house and left him quite literally holding the bills. He's disabled and trying hard to pay them. I have begged him to go to a credit counsellor. I have read many times that they can often negotiate with the creditors to drop some of the balance due. They figure some is better than none which is what they'll recieve if the debtor files bankruptcy.

As for baking from scratch--this is actually a GOOD thing. It's far healthier so you're actually better off than the rest of the family.

Again vent here any time. We're here for you!

Jayne

[RTNRJK]

Hang in there !!!!!!!!! I think your husband needs a reality check. Maybe he should sit down with you and you both pay the bills. He needs to know he has to help cut back. Have you looked into any 0% credit cards. That helped us. We now have only 1 credit card that is 0 interest. That is the only way we were ever able to see the amount go down. I cut back on my hours this year and I have been trying to cut back everywhere I can. Sometimes I just feel like going on a spending spree. I stopped myself yesterday because I was feeling sorry for myself. I think a lot of people have money troubles. Gripe all you want here. We are here to listen!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Take care, Teresa

[Lee]

My dh was in big time credit card debt when we married, I was young and dumb and never questioned those things! Anyway I started getting involved after him breaking down one day and confessing! We went to consumer credit and it was the BEST thing we could had ever done! It took 5 loooong years and 1 of living with his parents but we got it all paid to ZERO! Some cards dropped the interest completly and others lowered it! We only moved in with parents the last year to finish paying down and to save for downpayment on our house! The scary thing when we were on ccc, I was not a frugal person by any means. We did do it and I bet you can to! Mrs. Maniac have you ever thought of maybe getting a parttime job, just to pay some bills? This is why I babysit, I pay for the groceries and a couple of utility bills! It defintly helps get us by! Oh and maybe a dinner out here and there!
About the weight thing yes you probaly can get smaller than a size 12, I say I would be happy there but I am only 5ft 3 1/2 inches tall, when I was thinner I could get in an 8, but I will settle for 10 lol! My sil lost 35 lbs last year and is now a 4 but personaly I think she looks to thin and I worry that she is overly obsessed with being thin now! She lives on slim fast during the week. According to her there is nothing wrong with that. I know she is afraid to eat real food! I wish I knew how to talk her into starting on some before she makes herself ill!
Leighann

[nagymom]

Leighann,

I was in Catos a few months ago and was privy to a conversation between the clerk and another person in front of me checking out. They were lamenting the weight they had gained during pregnancy. (the customer had a newborn) The clerk, with a sigh, said, "I was a size 1 before I had my baby but I'm a size 3 now. I've decided to live with it so that I can eat whatever I want!"

Have you ever felt the urge to go over a counter and grab somoene by the throat???

Geesh---I'd love to see a size 14 again!

Jayne

[janet]

Nagymom...I have a niece that wears a size 1...she asked me.."Is my butt too big?" What butt? I answered...get real already girl...stand sideways and stick out your tongue so I can see a shape! lol

She laughed and no longer asks me that question! lol

janet

[nagymom]

Is my butt too big?"

Honestly--some peop!e I think they should be force fed.

I once bought a Garfield card for my best friend after we had been complaining (whining) aobut needing to lose weight. I almost fell down in the store laughing when I read it and of course immediately bouhgt it and mailed it to her.

In it Garfield says he's figured ou the perfect solution to dieting.

Gather up all the skinnies and kill them all!

Drastic maybe so I vote for the force feeding.

Jayne

[Lee]

Jayne,
LOL I know what you mean have heard some of those conversations myself! Right now the jeans I have on our a 16 however I can literaly pull them down over hips with them zipped and buttoned. Yet I try on a 14 they JUST fit, 12 are oh my gosh cant really breathe tight! Anyway I am just gonna try to lose as much as possible! Who knows if I keep trying to practice good eating and excercising habits maybe it wont take to long! Of course this morning didnt get to work out as ds woke at 6 and would not allow mommy to excercise!!! Will hopefully do when dh gets home from work, I would do it while evan is napping but the painters are still here and I am just to self consience that they might see me! The painters said today they will be done, thank god!
Leighann