| I agree that one needs to know what the other person does financially, what he/she wants at the funeral (I want red roses and to be buried with my dogs (1 I wear around my neck), how he/she did things that you now must do, and most of all KEEP BUSY! Stay social and stay busy until the depressed part passes. | 
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