I got a voice message on my phone from my SIL. He called me 3 nasty names that cannot be posted here. They start with S, W, and B. Anyway, Child Protective Services came yesterday and they have given my DD a week do to a drug test. My SIL accused me of being the one who called. He told me that I am never to see the kids again. My heart is broken. As soon as I can afford it, I am going to seek an attorney so that I can get the parents drug tested via hair follicle test since CPS is giving my DD a week or two to take a urinalysis. Anyone would pass that test when given advance notice. Any ideas or suggestions would be great.
I have nothing to offer but hugs. I am sorry for what you are going through, and will keep you in my thoughts. I wouldn't know where to begin, I wish you strength.
__________________ We all get heavier as we get older,
because there's a lot more information in our heads. That's my story and I'm sticking to it.
Don't get your knickers in a knot It makes you walk funny!
I am with cooked, I can only offer support. However, I have had a problem in the past with a SIL, and I held my ground, and eventually he & my DD divorced. He was abusive, druggie, and many other things such as a liar, cheat & thief. Problem was he was extremely good looking, and women fell for him. Hang in there for your grandkids sake, it will all come out in the wash, and the officials will see who is right in this case. We have nothing to fear when we are honest, and I know that is what you are. Hugs to you.
oh DeBora, sending hugs and prayers. I had wondered how things were going, now I can see not good. your heart has to be hurting as well being so concern..
I do wish you the best in this situation, know that GOD is watching over them.. yet it not easy.. you know some of the things I've been in the passed.
have you talked with CPS and tell them what's going on? If not do so.. don't hold your breathe for long with them.
so many times you feel like you running into a break wall.
Not sure what your income is but also talk with legal aid, maybe they can help with funds to try to get those gbabies.
Hang in there DeBora. Once you get a hair follicle test you will have proof of the drugs.
Also if you can get CPS to just drop in unexpectly, they will see what a mess the house is. You have everything documented as to you being the one that had to take kids to doctors and dentists, etc. An attorney can help you get the kids. Prayers for you and the children.
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Do not ask the Lord to guide your footsteps.
if you are not willing to move your feet.
CPS will not do hair follicle tests unless the child is under the age of 1 or if a child dies. Ridiculous, isn't it? At this point, the only thing I can do is make my appointment with the attorney at 4pm this afternoon and see what I can do for my GKs. This is making me so sick that I cannot sleep or anything. It is difficult to function, but I am hoping that I can get in to see a therapist that I've seen before that isn't one of my colleagues and keep my appointment with the attorney. I am also waiting for my very choleric, knows everyone, head of the clinic where I serve my practicum to see if there is anything that I can do. She may have connections and force CPS to do a hair follicle.
I with the others, the truth will out. Get that attorney too. The grandkids won't ever forget your kindnesses and care to them.
What does bil have to gain from excluding you? Is he being bad also? Does he lose money if your dd doesn't pass the test?
My DD's best friend told me that he smokes a lot of pot. He admits to me that he sometimes takes my DD's medications. However, she hasn't see the doctor in months, so she has no prescription. I am sure he is angry because they are caught. Also, he and his mother have no clue that my DD had her best friend call CPS on her MIL out of spite a few years ago. I wonder if she'd be so willing to let them stay with her rent-free if she knew. Anyway, this is all making me so sick. Drugs do bad things to people.
I have pictures of my DGS's damages, and I have a report and the medications he is supposed to be on. But, I don't want to post them here. CPS has NEVER come to see them though.
Debora, I hope the attorney you're seeing today can help you out, I know how much this is breaking your heart, Im so sorry, Prayers, and Hugs to you, let us know how you make out, it kills me that they give your dd warning that they are going to do a drug test, instead of just surprising her with one. HUGS
We all get heavier as we get older,
It makes you walk funny!
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Ellen in PA 
