Take good care of that little boy God blessed you with!! You are right, that is what is most important!
I joke about having wanted to have children and instead God gave me a Pekigneese! LOL!!! That little beast can be quite a handful at times!!!
What has it been like for you, raising 4 boys? Did you always want a large family? (4 children is large to me, in comparison.)
When I was young one of my best girlfriends came from a family of 8 children and that is what I wanted! Well, they say if you want to make God laugh just tell him your plans for TOMORROW!!! It turns out that only He knows out tomorrows and what His plans for us are! Parenthood was just not in His plans for us. Sometimes, even at 42 years old, there are days I am STILL trying to figure out, WHAT are His plans for me, LOL!!!
What are your boys names, Is your youngest Robbie?
Have a great day, Julie!
Hi Trainlady, it is so good to have you back. Our boys are Dan, Matt, Steve and Rob. I came from a family of three but always thought large families were cool. If my husband and I had been together since our 20's we would probably have had more children. He comes from a family of seven.
My husband and I always joke about "the be careful for what you ask for" senario as we would always say that we wished we had started out together...thinking ah bliss and all that stuff and then BAM! I get very unexpectedly pregnant. It wrecks havoc on our finances as I quit my job to be a SAHM and we really ARE just like struggling 20 year olds. So funny--God had his plans and and we don't even try to tell him what to do anymore.
Yea Julie, I know just what you mean about wishing you had "started out" with your husband...I too, wish I had "started" out with Mark. I was married in my 20s to my first husband but thats a wholenotherbook!
Still, I was only 31 when I married Mark and we thought having children would be no problem...funny how Gid works in our lives tho, looking at your life (the Surprise pregnancy!) and mine, the surprise of no pregnancy...anyways, thats a wholenotherbook too...but I do have a thread under Womens health on ectopic pregnancies if you are interested...
I just thank God for Mark, he is so good and wonderful to me and I thank God in my prayers for second chances. When Mark proposed to me that August day in 1991 in the Muir Woods I promised God right then and there that if He would give me a second chance, I would be a good wife, and I have.
Mark and I met on a Sierra Club hike, where did you and your husband meet?
peace,train
Greg and I met through a singles function. He had just gotten divorced and I had been divorced a couple of years. He was a great guy (you know one of the nice ones) but he was just too raw from the divorce. We parted ways after awhile. Then a year or so later, I had just been thinking of the nice guys I had dated and he was one of two that I thought it would be nice to see what was up with him. I went to my address book and there was his name--but I didn't call. Then, a day or two later, the telephone rings and it is HIM!!!! God is so good. We talked for hours, made arrangements to go out that weekend and were married four months later. He proposed to me on July 4th with the fireworks going off overhead and our children sitting in front of us. It was so romantic. I too, thank God all the time for bringing me Greg and giving us both a second chance at love.
I'd be glad to read your pregnancy thread. For some reason, I didn't feel right doing it until you said I could. It's just one of those threads I didn't feel I had any business going to as I would have nothing to contribute and am not one to peep if you will. It would be my honor to read about your struggle. Thank you and God Bless you.
Wow, a fourth of July proposal,...how festive, creative, loving and romantic!!!
I imagine watching the fireworks every year brings back those memories!!!
Thanx for reading about my infertility struggle...don'tever feel like you are lurking...I think of these posts as a way of sharing with others. Some things are for fun...like favorite books and recipies.
Some things are helpful, like health issues...and sometimes it is a place to even share our hurts and disapointments.
It was important for me to tell everyone about not being able to have children if I was going to "hang out" at this forum.
Not all, but most of the women here are moms. I talk a lot about reading, writing, going to movies and riding my train. Most moms everyday lives revolve around totally different activities not related.
I did not want anyone to ever think I did not WANT children...and wanted to explain that I do enjoy my freedom but that it was not a choice...I would rather have been watching my babies play outside and have lemonade stands and play dressup...both Mark and I had a very old fashioned view of raising children. Our ideas are probably very outdated in todays world, no doubt. Neither of us liked the idea of the taxi mom thing.
We bought a ballerina dress up outfit for my nice Jaci's birhtday tomorow...maybe we will play dressup!!!
peace,train
Yes, ever fourth of July is just all that more magical.
I totally understand your reasons for posting about your childlessness--makes sense. I should have realized that as I remember going to church after I was divorced and on mother's day the whole thing was centered about wives and husbands and I'm sitting there thinking I'm a mom too. I wept my way through most of the service then left and made it a point not to go to church on that day for several years. I don't begrudge the pastor his premise of where there is a mom there is a dad with the mom--it's the way it should be. All of us don't happen to fall in nice neat little categories all the time. With you, woman means mother at some point in most folks minds. With your years of experience you were very wise to anticipate that most on the women's forum will be moms. You'r so smart trainlady.
Have fun playing dress up. I'm praying that God will bless me with great daughter-in-laws so I can have the girl experience through them.
This is an interesting thread. It's made me do some thinking--along with all the praying I've been doing lately. Inner beauty? I let go of a lot of bitterness towards my parents, and I'm still amazed at how much more stable I am! I forgave my ex-bf for being a jerk(there are other words--I'm being polite lol)--I realized that if I hadn't gone through all the stuff with him, I wouldn't be thankful for dh today!!
I know I can't even begin to explain--my parents(mainly mom) should not have had kids. She was all-around abusive, and my dad just sat back and let it happen. I'm 30 years old, and am just now letting go of all the anger--I realized that they are never going to apologize, ever. Worse--I found myself reacting like my mom towards my son when he acts up. I really had to pray over that! As for my ex, well, he got what was coming to him, and I'm getting over the last of the things he did. It's been almost 6 years--I still pray every day over him(for him, too). It's amazing--even with our financial problems and marital problems, and ds having behavioral problems...when I pray and talk to the Lord, it takes away all the worry(at least for a while!) Dh has noticed I'm not as angry and ready to tear everyone's head off.
Am I "Sister SuperChristian?" No. But I definetely think prayer goes a long way. I asked God to bring some friends into my life--He lead me to the hand-bell choir at church. No biggie--except that I had told Him a while ago that I am still a bit envious of my cousin, who plays the piano for her church. I've always wanted to play music for the church! And now I do and while I was at it, I've made several good friends that are positive and uplifting!!
Hi Mrs Maniac...I think your user name could be MY name on some days!!!
I agree with you on the importance of forgiveness. I carried a lot of "baggage" from pasts hurts and abuse around for many, many years. A couple years ago I was able to finally...after counseling and art therapy...2 years of it...to forgive those who abused me. The feeling of peace in my heart is such a blessing. Forgiveness is such a powerful feeling.
Prayer too, is such an important past of my life.
Enjoy your hand bell-choir group!!!
Have a wonderful day,
peace,train
) Dh has noticed I'm not as angry and ready to tear everyone's head off. 
and while I was at it, I've made several good friends that are positive and uplifting!!
