struggles - Page 2

Lee · #11 (**permalink**) 02-15-2007, 06:49 AM

Sammi, I can relate about loving the daycare children, but sometimes wanting to just get out ! However I want to be home for MY children and at this time this is what I can do to keep that a reality. I know my dh is very happy in his job I just wish it paid more. I have a good marriage but I wish sometimes that I could worry a little less and he could worry a little more. He is the kind of guy that literaly lives day to day. Drives me crazy.

Mrs.Maniac, I know your marriage has been a struggle for a long time and you have been a great partner to him for all your sacrifices you have done to keep your family together. I wish you peace in whatever decision you make regarding your marraige. You seem to be a very strong person and I know no matter what obstacles you face you and your children will make it and come out even better. Hugs to you.

**bar_bar** · #12 (**permalink**) 05-14-2007, 06:08 AM

my stuggles is with my daugher and her live.
I want more than what she has. I see that she is missing out on life and being the mother GOD intended her to be.
It pains me and I see the pain my gd's goes thur especialty the youngest one when mom drops her off and drive away. She can't understand why she is not with her mommy.
Then I have to cope with angry issues, tears, and my heart breaks. It hard to know what to tell the girls.. The oldest one understand it better than her sister.
Plus they miss thier brother so much and lately not been able to see him. The brother is with his daddy.

The youngest one has even blamed herself for mommy not wanting her. TO think of this makes me sad, angry, and the list goes on.

Now mommy is getting married again to a man that she only has know for 3 wks. My
daughter can't understand why I have a problem with this and do not want to met this guy...

But my daughter track has been on that I have no idea how long this guy will be around, or how long she will keep him. The wedding is not until Oct. but what happens in during this time.. How can I get excited, how can I explin to the girls mommy is getting married again. They understand that this meams brother and them will never be together again which dampens thier hopes and dreams of having thier brother back.

Then the other stuggle I go thur is wondering what will happen to me and the girls when GOD takes my dh.. He is 15 yrs older than me and has alot of health issues.
The house is not paid for, we are in bankrupcy, and we make it from day to day and without GOD we would drown. SO I praise GOD for the little things and for getting us thru each day and GOD IS my strong point.... our achor....

**Sammi1961** · #13 (**permalink**) 05-14-2007, 06:21 AM

Bar_bar, you are certainly going through a lot right now. Your gds are so lucky to have you because you are the one stable person in their lives. Is there a way you could arrange for them to see their brother? Would his dad allow this? It certainly might help them if they could see him. And I think your gds anger comes out because they feel safe with you. They are angry at their mom and their situation but are comfortable enough with you and feel safe enough to let that anger be shown. I know that doesn't make it easy for you but it is a good thing that they have that safety. They know you will still love them even if they get mad. I can understand why you are not very excited about your dd marrying a man who she has only known a few weeks. The good part of all that is the wedding is months away and a lot can happen in that amount of time. Maybe it would be good if you did meet her fiance because then you would at least know what you are up against. Trust your instincts. I know it must not be easy having a dh with health problems, raising your gds and having financial problems on top of all of that but as you said, God has a plan and even though we may not know what it is, things will work out. My thoughts are with you. Your gds are very very lucky to have someone like you in their lives. Someday they will be able to tell you just what it meant to them.

Candy · #14 (**permalink**) 02-27-2008, 04:49 PM

Train you sure have a way with questions that start a new thread. why don't you answer them too?
after a lot of thought ,I think that inspite of my physical problems last year and so much more. It all boils down to feeling important,loved and special. Hubby has been showing me for 30 years but I have told him to no avail that I need to hear it once in a while.I am trying very hard to use all the negative stuff in a good way. You know find the silver lining in every cloud...it sure is hard.

megrayau · #15 (**permalink**) 02-28-2008, 11:31 PM

Good to see you Candy.
At the moment my biggest struggle is dealing with relationships at work that should be good but are really painful. There are 5 of us going through a mediation process at the moment and I know this will be hard before it's OK.
For the guys, I think work and personal issues are easy to separrate, for me each aspect of my life is intertwined and I cannot keep them all separate.

**Sammi1961** · #16 (**permalink**) 02-29-2008, 04:59 AM

I think my biggest struggle right now is being unhappy with how my life is. I think it might be a mid-life crisis of sorts. I am tired of taking care of everybody.