Pet Peeve? - 2

[Abear]

Originally posted by ashren
My 16 year old neighbor that comes over all the time and doesn't leave until all the kids heading up to bed.

I would be annoyed too....BUT, do you think there is a valid reason he doesn't like being in his own home???

[kellydid]

Ashren:

I agree with Abear, perhaps there is a reason he doesn't want to be at home. I was in a similar situation with my oldest son, but it was a girl who was always coming over. They were just friends. I got a little concerned about her being there all the time..staying till dinner time, coming over right after school, not going home till after 7 at night. I overheard little things that bugged me, too. I asked my son about this and he said he had promised not to talk about it. I told him that if this girl was in a situation that was endangering her or her sisters then he was not doing her any favors by keeping it a secret. He asked me to let him talk to her first and I did. They both came and talked to me, I called my husband and told him what they had told me so that he could call the proper military officials. Needless to say it was not pretty. So, there may be a reason he's there all the time. Or it could just be he loves the atmosphere and feeling he gets from being in your home.

[ashren]

My neighbor is a girl, she is very open with me she has some problems at home but nothing major. My main concern is that my oldest daughter is only 11, I don't see why a 16 yr old would want to hang around a 11 yr old so much. I feel bad b/c she doesn't have many friends of her own but it tends to get out of control.

[kellydid]

I can see your concern. What does an 11 year old have in common with a 16 year old? Nothing. I would be concerned to if I were in your shoes. I wonder why she doesn't have friends her own age to hang with. Is she immature for a 16 year old? Has she talked to you at all about what is going on at her home or what the home situation is? I think I would ask a few questions and I would surely keep an eye on the situation.

[MrsManiac]

I would definitely be a bit concerned, but have you thought that maybe she's hanging out with you under the guise of hanging with your kid? Don't laugh--I did it a lot in high school lol!! It was "mums" that really taught me how children are supposed to be loved and nurtured--she taught me how to clean, do laundry, etc--because my mother didn't(couldn't, actually). Granted, I wasn't there 24/7...but being there with them gave me a real family!! That being said, I have a former neighbor in his 30's that would visit and not leave! :mad:

I hate trying to cross Main St here in town with the kids--I can't tell you how many times we've almost been hit by someone turning left but looking the other way!!:mad: :mad: I don't mind so much the not stopping completely--I don't always do that myself, I just slow way down until they're across and if they stop I just motion them to keep going.(It would probably be better to just stop lol!!)

Don't get me started on people that let their kids just wander a mall while they shop. Grrrr! I used to work mall security and was constantly amazed by the number of people that thought we were a babysitting service! Then they opened the police mini station, and it was funny how quick they learned not to leave their kids when they had to talk to the cops before getting their kids back!!
Right up that same alley are the people that let their kids trash a store(opening the toys, running around the clothes racks, etc)--one lady was actually allowing her son to entertain himself by spraying bug spray on the food in the grocery store! Hehe--After he sprayed a bunch of bread, I took them and switched them out with the ones in her cart, telling her she could poison her family too while she was at it. Needless to say, I shopped elsewhere for a while lolol!!

Lol--when my kids go into meltdown, I have problems with people telling me to not be so tough on them! We have a rule that says being mad is okay, but no tantrums in public. We have a special place where we can go and have our fits in the basement at home, and we save our screaming for there. It usually works, lol!!

[LJsmom]

I was hoping they would call the police, hopefully the kids got a good scare out of it all. The mom obviously wasn't fazed.

We have several families around here that rely on their kids to translate for them. Yes I can empathize that it would be hard to learn another language, but when you've been here "forever" don't you think they would pick up some by now???
Our schools and churches offer ESL mostly free or at a low cost.
What really kicks me into high gear is the ones that pretend, then come to the clothing/food drives pretending to be needy and taking a bunch of stuff.
This one family last year I know from school, the mom speaks PERFECT English, her dh has a good job etc. but they came to the winter clothing drive with all the relatives and picked out tons of coats, boots whatever. Only have 2 kids but got enough for a lot more You were only supposed to take what your immed. family needed.
That stuff was intended for the ones who would be going without that winter, not her!!!

[trainlady]

Minor Irritants!!
I'll start!

Why do hamburger rolls come in packages of 8?
There are only 2 of us and we use 3 rolls between us. The other 5 go in the freezer and when I take them out to use them they don't look good or taste good.
They end up going in the trash or to the birds.

Why can't they put them in packs of 2 or 4?

hugs,train

[LJsmom]

Hot dogs come in packs that don't match the number of buns in a package. The extras always end up as bird food.

[kellygirl64]

My pet peeve of the day!

I belong to a cub scout pack. There are a few of us that do everything. OK.... here is the peeve part. We always have some that complain. They complain about everything but do nothing to help. The complainers say " I wish we could have done this or that" or " I wish this event was more organized" or they get upset when things don't start exactly on time. They are standing back watching us try to get everything done, wishing we would hurry up!

If I hear someone doing this I usually approach them with the suggestion that maybe they should join the committee for the next up-coming event, that way they can ensure that things will run more smoothly. With their eyes wide open they say " I can't" and go into a big spill about how busy they are!

Whew...... I feel better now that I said all that

Kelly

[MrsManiac]

Kelly, I know exactly how you feel. I get that way with some of the people at my church--it's always the same few people doing/organizing things, and the same people always complaining that "it could've been better." Then there's my personal favorite--the older ladies that have been doing things since the dawn of time, asking the "younger crowd" to help out because they're older and can't handle it all anymore. Then b and c because it's not being done "their way." Aargh!!

The one time I was able to make a very clear statement to those that complain--I was working as a cashier in a grocery store--the only one in the area that doubled coupons up to a dollar, so we were always busy. People would complain to me about being in line for so long(we were totally understaffed). So I grabbed a handful of job applications and when they's start complaining, I'd hand them an ap and let them know we were hiring!! It worked--they either stopped complaining, or had their kids apply for a job lol!!