Guys don't see grout

trainlady · #1 (**permalink**) 07-23-2009, 02:56 PM

Guy's don't see grout.....or grime on the stovetop....or gunk in the sink.......

Here is my question.........Is the grime and gunk and dirty toilets and newspapers all over and sink full of dishes with dried up pizza gunk on them.....toothpaste and hair in the sink invisible to your husband too?

I clean the house because I like it that way but, really, I think Mark could live with the house clean OR gunnky!

hugs, train

HAPPY6 · #2 (**permalink**) 07-24-2009, 11:36 AM

Gee I'm lucky my Dh cleans up after himself. He's a great help around the house!!

**Bilby** · #3 (**permalink**) 08-07-2009, 12:05 AM

Hubby cleans up after himself most of the time. He wears glasses and does not wear them in the shower so doesn't see how some times the grout is dirty or grease marks left on the walls or floors, same for ds2.
I think it's mostly a male thing and it bugs me and don't get me started on teenage boys and cars and grease ... LOL

mowire · #4 (**permalink**) 08-07-2009, 02:47 AM

TOOO funny Kathy!!!! my son is too young for cars yet!! but yes why after you spend all that time cleaning the bathroom...why does my hubby shave????!!!!! GOSH I thought that was a "morning" thing!!! he does it almost all the time!!!!! darn him!! I am with you Train!!! they just DONT see it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

myan · #5 (**permalink**) 08-07-2009, 02:59 AM

OH MY GOSH!! This is the subject I have been waiting for...my husband really is not a "slob" but dang...he has habits that drive me insane...he could care less if the bed is made...dishes in the sink, shower curtain drawn back to expose the tub/shower....clothes piled on the cedar chest, 4 pairs of his shoes by the hall tree, toast crumbs on or around the toaster, dish towel lying on the counter instead of hung up...omg, I could go on forever and the best part...he b**ches constantly about me making the bed, cleaning the bathroom daily, pulling the shower curtain...need I go further???? I honestly was beginning to think there was something wrong with me b/c I am so maticulous but we can be comfortable without worrying that every speck needs to be in it's place! Am I wrong about making sure that the bedspread is completely straight and the sheets underneath haven't any wrinkles? Am I wrong in closing the (decorative) shower curtain as to not look at a tub/shower? Oh listen to this one...if something is spilt on the carpet or floor..he uses my dishrag to clean it up and then puts it right back on the sink!!! YUCK!!! I constantly tell him that I have containers all over the place, with rags to please use those and he simply tells me why when this is more handy and he has rinsed it out! OMG, now that I have typed all of this...maybe he is a slob after all...and we have only been married for 6 yrs but I have noticed it more now that we are retired! How do I cope with his constant nagging about me cleaning house? I CANNOT, nor WILL NOT, live in an untidy home!
Thanks for letting me vent

**Bilby** · #6 (**permalink**) 08-07-2009, 03:58 AM

Myan
When my hubby makes the bed I should say if I'm not there to make the bed that day when I get home I remake it LOL
If the boys do the dishes I go back and do it to my liking .... I just don't say anything or tell any one LOL

**CalGalInFla** · #7 (**permalink**) 08-07-2009, 05:16 AM

I have told this before, but we have what is called "man-clean" here at my house.

My husband will clean the kitchen, ie, put the dishes in the dishwasher but he does NOT wipe down the counter tops and there are stickies and gunkies everywhere. ICK!

Other than that, he is a pretty good egg.

Good thread! Thanks!

J~

danstigerangel · #8 (**permalink**) 08-07-2009, 05:44 AM

This is a good thread. My dh helps around thehouse all the time. It is sometimes to the point where it gets on my nerves. lol. I guess I shouldn't complain, though. He will even hang laundry onthe line. It just irks me if I have wiped something down and I see him going over it again. I must say I roll my eyes alot.

**Sammi1961** · #9 (**permalink**) 08-07-2009, 05:51 AM

Oh this is such a great thread! First of all, I don't think men see anything below knee level so if there are things on the floor that need to be picked up or the floor needs to be washed or vacuumed, they won't see it. My dh is definitely a very messy person. I find shoes and socks left everywhere, clothes in front of the hamper on the floor rather than in the hamper, dirty dishes left all over the place, wet bath mat left on the floor etc. As for making the bed, his philosophy is "Why make the bed if you are just going to get into it again?" He leaves piles of mail and papers everywhere. I feel I never get to any real or deep cleaning because I am so busy just trying to maintain the basics (clean floors, dishwasher emptied, dirty dishes put in the dishwasher, bathroom clean etc.) My dks are not a whole lot of help either as they are following in their father's footsteps. it is like fighting a losing battle. If I clean off a space, someone will pile things there. I just try to do my best and get a head when I can. It does feel like a never ending battle though. I do have to say, though, that when my dh does get into cleaning mode, he does an excellent job. No telling what he will decide to clean but he is very thorough. I just wish it happened more often.

**CalGalInFla** · #10 (**permalink**) 08-07-2009, 05:58 AM

This is a crack-up! All I can say is its a darn good thing Myan does not live in my house. She would be miserable!

Saturday is my cleaning day and Dad keeps the kitchen in ship-shape daily. Right now I have 2 or 3 loads of laundry in my room that needs to be folded and put away and one in the dryer. I also have my husbands ironing on one of my kitchen bar stools for Sunday's weekly iron-a-thon. My base boards and stairs need a good cleaning too.

Oh well - tomorrow is my day off. Will get it done then. (I hope).

J~