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Charlotte, very sorry your dh didn't get the job. He will find something. I pray it will be soon.
Connie, sorry about your oldest ds and his wife. When our kids are out on their own, they are responsible for the decisions they make and their decisions often have nothing to do with how they were raised. Both of them need to be on meds, no doubt all their life. If they don't take them, that is their decision. And if they are not taking them, that would have a lot to do with how they make decisions and mess their lifes up and mess themselfs up. There is nothing you can do about it and none of it is your fault.
Bar_bar, so glad you had fun with your Red Hat friends. I fully understand you feeling like your not sure you are ready to do things like going rafting. However, keep in mind that getting out and doing things keeps you moving forward. You will definitely make changes in your life and do things different.
You have to build a life of your own.
Since there will be singles as well as couples in this group, you will not be out of place.
I will tell you a story.
About 14 months after my Garey passed on, my dd and her dh took me on an Alaskan cruise. I had to fly to Alaska by myself. They lived in New Orleans. I flew from Green Bay to Chicago, stayed overnight in a hotel in downtown Chicago. I was very nervous about that. Dd's travel agent booked my flight from Chicago to Alaska and back. The agent left it up to me to get to Chicago and get from Chicago back to Green Bay. From Chicago I flew to Minneapolis. Not only did I have to change planes in Minneapolis but an airline as well. The plane was late and I had 30 min between planes. I picked up my luggage and asked how to get to this airline. The gal called the gate I was supposed to go too and told them my plane had just gotten in and I was on my way. They said they would hold the plane until I got there. They were already boarding. I was told not to worry about checking my luggage, I should just bring it with me. I no sooner got in my seat and the plane started to taxi. I was so out of breath because I had to run dragging this luggage behind me.
On the way back I flew from Alaska to Seattle, changed planes and few to Utah. Had to change planes again. And we couldn't leave because there was a storm in Minneapolis. Sat there for hours. Finally we were able to leave for Minneapolis. Got there and had to get my luggage and change airlines again and of course I had missed my plane so had to take the next plane that I could get on.
Got to Chicago, had to stay overnight again. It was very late. Had an early plane to Green Bay. Got to the airport and couldn't leave. A problem with the plane. Had to wait for another plane. The next plane was booked full, had to wait longer. Keep in mind planes between Green Bay and Chicago are commuter planes. They carry 30-40 people. I ended up getting home just in time to change clothes and leave for work. I worked evenings at the Shawano WalMart at that time. I should have arrived home before noon.
The whole point of this story is that you can do what ever you have too or want too even if you think you can't.
I will say that while on the cruise I at times felt very lonely and was very close to tears. But I was still glad I was there and I still enjoyed it. It made good memories that I will never forget with my dd. I will not forget the things I saw and the whole experience.
I also learned that I am capable of moving on and taking care of myself and making a life of my own. My mil took care of my cats.
Your dd can take care of Prissy.
The first step is hard but each step after that gets easier. Why not go and do something fun and enjoy yourself? There is nothing wrong with that. And if you do have some bad moments that's okay. They will pass and you will feel better. Think about it. Do you like rafting? It is your decision to make.
I am not trying to talk you into anything, just letting you know I understand what you are going through. Been there. Could be there again.
Hi to everyone.
Last edited by seleach; 07-03-2009 at 09:46 PM.
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Lauri
