Thank you ladies. I guess I don't even have to really ask them if they want me there. Just them asking me to take them is enough. If they didn't want me there they would have gotten a ride with one of their friend's parents.
Please pray for me that I can "keep it together". As these are children that are the same age as my children. Just sitting here thinking about it is giving me a lump in my throat. The thought is just there "this could be my child". Okay now the lump turned to tears.
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Karen
When I was young, I always said I wanted to be someone...I guess I should have been more specific!
Karen, the hardest part for me, was when Adam got back in the car. You might want to prepare yourself for that. He sorta lost it, then. The "I'm not going to fall apart in front of my friends" stance fell away once in the car and he was alone with me.
We did go through this once before with a young boy's passing. But, I knew his family and felt a little more comfortable attending his funeral. And that was right after we moved to this school district, so I didn't know alot of the kids.
But, now I know most of the kids in the school. So, this is going to be really hard, and than two nights in a row.
The really bad thing is the first one we are attending. The father of the deceased is a fire fighter, and he was on call when the accident happened, and was one of the first ones on the scene.
Really bad part? The car landed on this young man, and the emergency crew didn't even know he was there until they were moving the car. The accident happened at about 7:00pm and the life helicopter was not on the scene until 10:00 that night!
The father said he saw it was his son and just walked away!
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Karen
When I was young, I always said I wanted to be someone...I guess I should have been more specific!
Oh, Karen, how awful for that father! I just cannot even put myself in his shoes! You know, I will be praying for all of you and especially for the deceased boys families. Your children also. This really brings home the fact that they are not as immortal as they think they are. That is the one thing Adam told me. Like most teenagers, he, too, drove fast, but after that one really bad accident, he slowed down! He told me, he realized that God may not always want him to be speeding and sometimes he may busy someplace else! Teenage logic! It worked! I never told him God was always with him....it managed to do the job of slowing him down!
So sad to loose a child. I've had 2 good friends loose children, one at age 10 of cancer and another at 15 from a gun accident.
One always wonders what would have been, who they would date, marry and carreer......
The child that died in an accident caused even more sorrow, as there were no good byes and all the blaming.
"Our physical bond is temporary. Only love is eternal."
Denise Sasaki
