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my parents allowed my family and me to move in with them when we moved from FL to NC; we were with them for 4 years until we rented a house down the street -that was 7 people in a 3 bedroom doublewide and we had some problems but got through them. Mom didn't want me to help with anything around the house after I got a job, but my 3 dd's were expected to help out and keep things clean.
when my oldest dgd was 6 months old my sil lost his job and they were evicted-they moved in with us and our middle dd changed-she really hated being home with the crowd we had, but it was a little better than at my mom's-7 people in a 4 bedroom house. She moved out the day she graduated high school and dd#1 and her family moved out about a year later for about 3 years; then they moved back in-their 2nd dd was a preemie and their landlord was evicting them for being 1 week late and my dd needed to have other people around when her dd came home from the hospital-which was 3 months after birth (her actual due date) they've been here ever since-7years, but they have helped with the rent, etc. My dd has basically kept the house for me until she started school last fall, now we try to all help out more. With my dh and my sil out of work they're supposed to do more around the house while I'm at work and dd's at school. it's worked out for us for the most part.
I'd allow any of my girls to move home, as long as I have the room and as long as they agree to do what they can to make things as easy on everyone as possible.
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