Trouble With 14 Year Old Son - Page 2

**DeBora4BobbyL** · #11 (**permalink**) 11-11-2005, 03:59 AM

First, welcome kmarie67.

If you have custody of this 14 yr-old, why are you allowing him to make the decision to live or spend time with a person who is detrimental to his life? You are the one letting him down if you, the custodial parent, aren't making sure he is with the "right" parent. I agree with some of the others. However, the family court will want to know why you have allowed your DS to be around his father knowing what you have known about him being detrimental. Get your DS and yourself into therapy ASAP. It is not too late. It is quite normal for a 14-yr-old to play his parents against one another. A good therapist can give you ideas and suggestions.

Good luck.

2labgal · #12 (**permalink**) 12-22-2005, 07:00 AM

I'm going through something similiar and I hope all goes well for you. I have never felt so betrayed. Good luck and best wishes.

Jeannie · #13 (**permalink**) 12-22-2005, 01:16 PM

This is an issue that is resolved by the family court. An investigation is performed, and then the JUDGE will either allow this boy to live with his Dad or not allow it. Usually, unless there is some circumstance, children of this age are allowed to live with the parent of their choice.

Take it to court. It will save you a lot of grief and hard feelings with your son. Trust me on this.. been there done that with a step child. The Judge saw it my way after an investigation.