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Ugh! My sister and I have always had a rough relationship, now that we are older and both have daughters we do spend time together, but she has such a temper and such hot/cold days... how do I get along with her without expending all of my energy? Tell me about your sisters and help me deal with mine!!!!
Yeah, she is four years older and drives me nuts! When our kids play together hers (5yrs old) is snotty and back talky, and tattle telling, and she does not share... yet somehow my 3yr old gets in trouble for everything... becuase, right, my little girl could figure out how to climb up into the closet on her own if she hits my daughter, then "it was provoked" if Emmy pinches then she is "just being mean" whatever. i know that they are both at fault in many situations, but I am sick of her getting blamed for EVERYTHING. ANd the worst part is, she gets frustrated because she is telling the truth and still getting yelled at !
My sister is that irritating person who walks around Target squeezing a little out of each lotion bottle to "test" it, puts things back wherever she happens to be when she decides she doesn't actually need it, and has (on several occassions) ripped opened packages of things like socks to hold them up and see if they look like the right size, then sticks them back in the package and grabs another one saying "I'm not buying that one, it's been ripped open." She makes me crazy.
If we go to the mall (anywhere actually, but I need an example!) she will quite loudly say each and every judgemental thought about people that crosses her mind. "Why is that hot guy with such an ugly girl?" "OMG! Why does she think she can wear that shirt outside the house? She looks like a baby whale!" "Did you see how droopy that lady's boobs were?" She also will steal things from my house and just refuse to admit it. Hello, I have been in her house too, I can see my things out on display on her shelves, or on her body... she has given away my bike to a friend before. She just does not seem to get the fact that her actions effect the people around her.
I am getting pretty sick of putting things away on the correct shelf after she walks away, and smiling politely at people as we walk past with my best "excuse my sister, she is unbalanced and I am not at all in agreement about your boobs" smile.
One is 7 years older than me, and we do not get along at all!! We are sisters and that is the extant of it, nothing more. Like you her children do no wrong. And anything that happens is always my kids fault!
The funny thing is when my sister is not around, all the kids get along great, that would be my sisters four children, my brothers two children, and my four children. There is no fighting, when she is not around, but, if my sister is there, there is tattling, fighting yelling, screaming, you name it, it happens.
My sister even picked a fight with my oldest DD at my Grandmother's funeral! And she is constantly asking my daughter personal questions, that are none of her business, I mean questions that even my sister that I am close too would not ask my DD, and my close sister was even right there by my side when I gave birth to my oldest DD!!
On the other hand, I have a sister that is only two years older than I am! We are very close! The only thing is she does not have children. But, we still actually do things together, we go shopping, just visit at each others homes (mostly mine, so that my kids can do their thing, and not get bored). I could not live without this sister!!!
It is almost like my oldest sister was raised by a different family!! I always hoped that as we got older we would become closer. It just isn't happening. We are too different, so we are always decent to each other, and that is that, we never get together, except at family functions, and to ocassionally we are together at our bi-weekly visit to Grandma's.
Sometimes, I wonder if my sister is just jealous, that I have had a closer relationship with our Mom, as our Mom quit working to take care of oldest sisters son, when I was only ten, and my Mom and I got to do things together when I was in my teens, and I feel that that really helped me.
And than there is the husband situation, which is when she really started being ignorant to me. As my DH and her DH are both in the same field of work. And my DH is nine years younger than her DH. And that seemed to cause alot of friction there!
I won't even get into my oldest brother and sister and my parent situation, here that is a whole other thread!!!
Good luck!!!
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Tasha--I am also one who has a sister who is hard to get along with. I was one of four girls in my family. And I think sometimes she got mixed up in the hospital (but she was born at home) She is hard to get along with as you have to watch everything you say or do around her. She will take it wrong. It is like walking on eggs all of the time. We (my other sisters and I) have grown children and grandchildren and she is not any different then she was years ago. Had to have some coffee. LOL Maybe it is the family she married into as I don't remember her being like that growing up. She is about three years younger than me. I do think she has an inferiority complex and so I do not spend much time with her as it goes better that way. My other two sisters and I were very close and I am still to my younger one. My sister next to me in age passed away from bone cancer at the age of 48. But, it does make me feel good that I am not the only one who has problems with a sister (had no brothers) Not that I want anyone else to have the kind of problems I have had with my sister but now I don't feel like an odd ball. I gues we will alll have to handle it the best way we can. HUGS to all Marian in ND
Would be nice if we could get together and visit like this.
I confess I don't post here much but this could definitely identify with this thread. I had five sisters and one brother. Oldest sister and only brother have passed on.
I was really close to my brother and have a good relationship with the sister born just after me.
None of us are alike.
I live next door to my sister that is the next older one from me. She copies everything I do and then tells people it is her idea which really aggravates me because then they think I copied her. For instance several years ago I started collecting Tea Infusers and other Tea related items, strainers, etc. Now she collects them and tries to find them before I do. Then she will bring them over in gloat about it.
She has always got to have everything I have only bigger and better. She has more money than I do so that's not hard for her to do. I look back and realize it started when we were kids. I love her but I don't like her much!
We worked at the same restaurant one time, and I had to convince people that I was not like her.
She says hateful, mean things, and will hold a grudge forever against anyone who has anything to say that differs from her point of view. When she had her son, she "dropped and ran" back to work. My poor nephew had to put up with 3 babysitters per day, until I got off my second job to relieve the thrid sitter. As soon as I got financially stable, I gave up the second job, and cut out one of the sitters.
He is now 15, and only now is she starting to see how much quality time I have had with him, and how much she missed out on. I put up with things, like on her days off, she wouldn't wash the dishes at her house. She waited for me to come over (because I babysat at her house, believing that children should go to sleep in their own beds) to wash her dishes. I freaked.
She was asecretary at the only elementary school in town. She was calllign parents and telling them that their children's shorts were too short. Imagine the parents she alienated then. That was not part of her job description.
They transferred her to the "little school) (k-3) and she did something over there too. What, I am not sure of, but enough that the school system transferred her whole department to the Board of Education building across from one of the schools.
Now she is the secretary to the child study team. Imagine those poor parents who have enough to cope with, having special education children with some real handicaps, and they have to put up with her.
There is nothing anyone can really do now, because she was tenured last fall.
I had car trouble a couple of Christmas's ago, and I had to have my cousin bring me to his Mother's house for dinner, etc. Later, my sister shows up, and tore into me so badly, it was pathetic. My cousin's wife asked me what did I do to her. My cousin told her that my sister is always like that. His wife said that she had never heard like that with me. He told her that is because I leave when I know she is coming.
I am the older sister and always tried to look out for her. But now that we are adults, there is no covering up for her behavior.
You have to jsut love her because she is your sister, forgive whatever you can, and give the rest of the hurt to God. God will take the pain away, and give you strength to continue to deal with the madness.
My sister is 8 years older then me. We have never been friends. I really think it is because of the age gap. She moved out of the house at 18 and I became the "only" child in a sense.
Over the past few years we have worked on becomming friends. I really think its because we are our only living blood relatives left. Thats a big deal. Our parents are gone and we are all we have. I think we are mellowing a lot with age too. Anyhow it is nice to have her more in my life. She even sent be a bouquet of flowers for my birthday. I was floored to say the least.
and now I have email so we can communicate a lot more often. With snail mail we wrote maybe once a year. We are both always so busy. I also feel that we enjoy each others company long distance more than we would close up. We are like night and day.
And me too, I love my sister, I dont know if I like her.
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I know I said in my earlier post that if my sister and I weren't related, we wouldn't be friends... But I don't mean I don't like her..
Sad truth is .. I don't even KNOW if I like her or not.. I simply don't know her very well as a person. I can't seem to figure her out!
Yes... she irritates the HECK out of me... She has no common sense... ( she's brillient, by the way ..Do you all know people like this??) .. and she has no idea how to relate to other people in a social way..( unless they are other senseless genius types who don't care about social graces). These are her friends ( )
She's oblivious to other people's perspectives on things.
It's as if she assumes the world revolves around her.. but not in a stuck-up snotty or malicious way... More in an absent minded professor way.
But add to that image menopausal hormones, "sisterly expectations" and a NY attitude..and you have my sister..
Not an easy package for me....
Like I said .. I'm supposed to be the LITTLE sister.. But most of the time I'm raising her ( socially anyway) LOLOL!!!
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Love/hate relationship with your sister in law? Situation with your Mom? Plenty of things to talk about here.
if she hits my daughter, then "it was provoked" if Emmy pinches then she is "just being mean" whatever. i know that they are both at fault in many situations, but I am sick of her getting blamed for EVERYTHING. ANd the worst part is, she gets frustrated because she is telling the truth and still getting yelled at ! 
We are too different, so we are always decent to each other, and that is that, we never get together, except at family functions, and to ocassionally we are together at our bi-weekly visit to Grandma's.
Had to have some coffee. LOL Maybe it is the family she married into as I don't remember her being like that growing up. She is about three years younger than me. I do think she has an inferiority complex and so I do not spend much time with her as it goes better that way. My other two sisters and I were very close and I am still to my younger one. My sister next to me in age passed away from bone cancer at the age of 48. But, it does make me feel good that I am not the only one who has problems with a sister (had no brothers) Not that I want anyone else to have the kind of problems I have had with my sister but now I don't feel like an odd ball. I gues we will alll have to handle it the best way we can. HUGS to all Marian in ND
Would be nice if we could get together and visit like this.
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