I use to have difficulty with my ex-mother-in-law. I suppose if the spouse doesn't lay down the lines of where the in-laws are not to cross then they will try to run your family.
My MIL is a very negative person and is hard to be around. I have finally decided that it just easier for hubby to handle her. I screen her calls and just let dh know when she has called. She use to just show up, because she knew I would need help with the kids. Everything I did was wrong, it still is that way. It is just easier on me to let hubby tell her what is going on.
No, but it seems to be a common problem with several of my clients. There is a simple solution to the problem unless if you are dependent on them. If you are dependent on them for money, shelter, or anything else, they will have leverage on you.
However, if you aren't dependent on them, I suggest the broken record technique to keep your emotions down and to keep them from putting you on the defensive. Here is how it works. When they ask you how you are going to do something that you feel is none of their business or something similar, you find a simple answer and repeat it over and over and over every time they ask you a question to attempt to get you to answer the question. You repeat your answer in a monotone voice.
For example, if they ask you how you are going to file your taxes (are you filing jointly or single and separately) because YOU need to file jointly as it will safe you money. You say, "Thank you for your advice; I will take that into consideration." Then, they tell you that you are wasting their son's money if you don't file jointly and they insist that you tell them that you are filing jointly. You AGAIN state in a monotone voice, "That you for your advice; I will take that into consideration." You keep this up until they give up in frustration and stop bothering you.
This is such a simple technique that it is good to use on manipulators, children who try to manipulate you, and so on. You can do this while you are planning dinner and so on while the other person is using ALL his or her brain to try to get a different answer out of you. All the while, you aren't trying to defend yourself or become so angry that you want to hit someone.
I've never had any trouble wioth my inlaws.
The only one we really associate with is my husbands one sister Janet. She basically minds her own business. She asks how we are, how things are going, I say good, real good or whatever, she never pries.
I think that is one of the reasons her and I get along.
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Thank God I never had any probs with my EX's parents or siblings. Mom use to tell us if we asked her advice on something. You kids were old enough to get married so use your own head, IF I said do this or that and it turned out wrong you would be upset with me so God trusted you to be married and parents so figure things out and we did. Loved her & Pop dearly and miss them so much. Still have his bro and sis tho' as they are still alive and kicking.
Good luck to all who have in law trouble and DeBora's advice is good no matter who is the nosy one
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I never really have a problem with my in-laws being nosy, more like my DH sometimes puts his families needs before our own - even sharing info w/them before discussing it w/me. When I tried (and I have several times) to point this fact out to him, I use to get rebuffed with "I always tell you whats going on" or "you're imagining it." One day my MIL asked my DH what I thought about some deal they were in the midst of sealing, when I heard him say its ok, she wont mind. When he came to "tell" me about it I explained to him the only reason I don't mind is because it was already a done deal, but when finances get tight I don't want to hear one iota about how its my fault because I haven't been working (this was back in the earlier 2000's)... Since then he has learned that sometimes it is best to check with his spouse rather than "his" family first.
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My inlaws are good I'm lucky, maybe my sil in law will have a go at how things are done but not often.
I often wonder if they realise what they do and if you barged into their life to run it what they'd say, as in this is what you do to me how would you like it.
Good luck
My father-in-law was a wonderful man...always treated me with respect...we were very close and I miss him every day...
My mother-in-law or as she is known "Monster-In-Law" is the meanest,most hurtful person I have ever met...you name it and she has done it...I have nothing to do with her anymore after the last stunt she pulled...I let dh deal with her and the rest of his family...
Smiles & Hugs...
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My mother is law is wishy, washy. She thinks she has a sneaky way to get information she wants.. It's kinda of funny. at least for my sanity. She will ask something and we call her on it, and she says I don't even know what it means. Right, like the other day, I told her my thyroid medicine was making my hair fall out, so she said well go ahead a get it cut. She hates my long hair, so that is how she addresses it. She gave me a pamplet on lipo suction and said, this came in the mail, I know I don't need it, here maybe you should use it. Knowing that no doctor will get near me, since the incident after my 1st stomach surgery. But when i said, are you trying to tell me something, she looks at me and says, I don't even know what lipo suction is.
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