HELP!! The holidays are so stressful. I live with a guy -been 2.5 years (I really am not sure of the relationship here!). He is like a live in "Mr French". Does not work, but cooks, cleans and watches the children (ages 9 & 11). I can be chaotic and he does provide structure.
But what an introvert! I love people, love the holidays. He is the opposite. Last Christmas, while my family was over, he went in the bedroom and closed the door. Said too much was going on.
He loves to cook and is quite good about the holiday cooking. But we seldom do things together. His idea of together is shopping at Wal-Mart. He never goes to the kids games or concerts. Never goes over to my family's homes. Last Thanksgiving, he stayed home and cooked himself a turkey breast!
I am not sure all of this is good for the kids. And I know I am not really happy. He IS funny and smart. I was attracted to him in the first place because he was off the wall. (I have been divorced for 3 years) Sex is not existent. I think we tried a few times but the um, physical part was absent on his end.
He really has no where to go. Was living with his Mom until she sold the house. Has a trailer about 2 hours away but no heat and no water.
For a while it has been okay, I cannot afford a sitter and this was a nice compromise. Unsure if the kids can be left alone if he did leave.
daisylady...... I wish you luck in this relationship. Maybe you should find yourself a boyfriend too for some fun. It would work if you had someone that liked a normal family life. Your choices are yours if you like the way you are living. What do your children say about him? You do not give the age of this man is he older or younger than you? Maybe you can have a little talk with him before the Holidays to see if he will join you at your family dinner. Looks like he has a good life with you probably does not know how you feel about the whole thing.
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Sueanne
I am 41, he is 47. The kids seem to like him. They think he is funny and he does make them laugh (me too) Ex was not much fun!
What they do not like sometimes is his food (he cooks healthy w/ whole wheat and from the basics-they like crap like hamburger helper), and he does make them do their chores and yells if they do not.
I guess i am just feeling lonely. Yes, I have tried to talk to him. He is not one for talking much.
