| I have never been divorced, but I am a counselor. It depends on their ages. If they are very young, you might just tell them that daddy won't be living at the same house any longer, but he loves the children very much. I would allow him as much access to the children as possible as long as he is a good father. If the children are older, you can explain that you are getting a divorce. The main thing is to tell the children that it has NOTHING to do with them. Children tend to internalize and blame themselves. It is not uncommon for children to think of things they did wrong (make a bad grade, not clean room, throw a tantrum, and so on) and think that it is their fault. It is so important to tell the children that it is an adult situation that has nothing to do with them. They also need to know that both Mommy and Daddy love them very much! If you handle it by making sure this has nothing to do with them and that you do not hate Daddy (even if you do) they children wills survive.
Another thing, if you hate your ex or have bad things to say about him, make sure you do not say it to the children or in front of the children, even if it is true. If he is a jerk, the children will figure it out sooner or later. Don't be surprised if Daddy starts buying the children more toys than you can afford. He may initially look good to the children but in the long run, the children will see the sacrifices that you make. If you do talk bad about the father, the children, who are a product of the father, will think they must be bad too. Most will not verbalize this until they are adults. Good luck!
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