sending oldest to college soon

chi · #1 (**permalink**) 08-02-2004, 07:10 AM

I will be taking my oldest to college this month the day before his 18th birthday. I already know I will be one big puddle. However, I don't think I will miss the endless fights we're now having. OR will I?

Anyone else sending one off?

**Bilby** · #2 (**permalink**) 08-28-2010, 10:14 PM

None of us have ever been to college or Uni, I still have one in gr10.
My eldest has moved out and the 'nagging' is much less and my bathroom has never been clean for so long.
As long as you hear from them regularly, so the feel the 'want' to call you not 'have' to call you to keep up it's not so bad.
No matter the age we always miss our kids I think

**happymomof4** · #3 (**permalink**) 08-29-2010, 02:49 AM

Our older daughter just went back to college yesterday for her sophmore year. I miss her but am glad she is out of the house again. We got use to just having the 3 of us at home. Then Tara came home for the summer. I know my younger daughter loved having her sister home for the summer. But just like me we missed the peace and quiet. We had 4 kids and are down to 1 at home. Much cleaner and quietier house.

CHADSMOM · #4 (**permalink**) 08-13-2011, 04:23 AM

My youngest is getting ready to begin his senior year. He plans on going to college so now we need to work on big decisions as to where to go, scholarships, financial aid, etc. I know that all of this has to be done very soon to secure a spot in a college of his choice...I will probably be a big cry baby too when he is gone...

**Sammi1961** · #5 (**permalink**) 08-13-2011, 12:01 PM

My daughter graduated college and my ds1 is going to be going back for his senior year of college in a couple weeks. The one thing I do know is having fights before your child leaves for college is very common. They are nervous and trying to become an adult and break away from their parents and we are nervous and worry about how they will manage while at school and wanting to hold on for just a little longer. Believe me, once they are at school, things calm down but be prepared for the first time they come home for a weekend or a holiday. They will have changed in some ways (more independent and expecting fewer rules etc.) but still be the same in others. When my dd left for college, I made it to the parking lot before I started crying. I thought I would do better when ds1 left for college but no such luck. This year he will be living in an apartment with 4 other friends rather than the dorm which leaves me with a whole bunch of other worries but I have to let him grow up and find his way. All we, as parents, can do is hope we taught them well and let go but still be there if they need us. I am already getting sad at the prospect of my ds1 leaving but then as others have mentioned, it will have an upside as well.