| I have had a bucket list (didn't call it that before the entitled movie) since I was in my early 20s or before. I wanted to do many things and have achieved all but a few things. I want to own a Corvette. I would prefer a 1968 version, but I love them so much I will take anything. The next little thing on my list is either sky diving or riding in a NASCAR race car. I have always wanted to go to college, which I have. But, I want my PhD in clinical psychology. That has changed since I got 2 children to raise, unless a judge decides otherwise. I was supposed to graduate last Decemeber with my MA, but getting these 2 Munchkins changed that. I can only hope that I can graduate THIS December. I cannot imagine how single parents do this. My DH was transferred to another state 4 months before I got the children. Thank God my DS moved in with me and is helping me financially and physically with housework, laundry, and dishes. It is nice to come home to a clean house with clean dishes. I LOVE to cook so DS has a great deal getting nice homemade meals. He is such a Godsend. The one other thing that is on my bucket list is for my life is that I will work in the big city (I do not plan to retire. If I retire, it is because I am dying) while my DH is planning his garden in the mountains. We have planned since before our marriage that we'd live in the mountains, in a log cabin, with my DH goofing around while I work. Sorry, I am a work-a-holic.
Anyway, the hardest thing for me to learn is to adjust my bucket list. I now realize, that unless the judge decides to jeopardize the children, I will be raising these children. They do not need to be raised in a tourist town in the mountains. I will not be able to own a Corvette since it only has 2 seats and I now have 2 children. I probably can still race in a NASCAR car or sky dive since those are both $200-$300. That means there are 2 things on my bucket list that I may not be able to accomplish.
So, I am left with either being depressed over the goals that I will never be able to accomplish or change my list. IF I am able to raise these kiddos, my new list will be for BOTH children to have the grades to be able to enter college. Thankfully, both children are very intelligent. The youngest just turned 5. When I got him, he was 3 and about to turn 4. He was functioning at the level of a 2.1 year old. That is a 2 and 1 month old. He graduated pre-kindergarten and is entering kindergarten this school year. He is excited to be going to his sister's school. I see him communicate very well with his peers. I will be honest that I didn't think he couldn't do that when I first got him.
Has anyway, has anyone else had to change his/her plans due to situations?
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