The best and worst in life?

**DeBora4BobbyL** · #1 (**permalink**) 09-09-2009, 05:51 PM

What is the best thing that has ever happened to you and what is the very worst thing? How did you deal with getting over the bad and how did the wonderful thing affect you?

**Sammi1961** · #2 (**permalink**) 09-11-2009, 10:22 AM

I have had a lot of wonderful things happen in my life. Graduating college with honors, marrying my dh, the births of my children are some of the major ones. Then there are the smaller joys like vacations at the island with family and friends, winning $500 in a contest, etc. A couple of the worst things that have happened in losing both of my parents within a couple years of each other. My dad had Alzheimer's so his passing was almost a blessing but watching my mom get worse slowly was very hard but she died with dignity and grace so in some ways being there for that was an honor. I think I am still dealing with that. Finding out my dh had an affair was devastating and one of the worst things ever and after a year trying to deal with it on my own I sought therapy and went on antidepressants both of which saved my life. That was so long ago now and I have learned a lot since then. I have also learned that despite things being the worst sometimes, time passes and life does go on and we will always come out on the other side. If we haven't made it through yet, we will eventually. That is just how life works.

trainlady · #3 (**permalink**) 09-11-2009, 01:47 PM

Sammi, I am so sorry that you lost your parents. That must be just heartbreaking and I am sorry about what you went thru with your husband.
That being said, I want to say to you that, even in talking about pain, you are a very eloquent writer.

The joys in my life were meeting and marrying Mark. The bad, I cannot verbalize, let alone write..........

Hard, but interesting question, DeBora.

hugs, Donna

stekim · #4 (**permalink**) 09-11-2009, 02:41 PM

Many great moments, Accepting Jesus as my savior, Marrying my husband Steve & my children being born....

Devastating, My father dying - I know he's in a much better place but I'm very selfish & miss him dearly.

KSJEn6891 · #5 (**permalink**) 09-11-2009, 05:06 PM

The best: Marrying someone who loves me just as I am.

The worst: not being able to conceive / carry a baby to full term.

How did I deal with the bad: Having a wonderful husband who reminds me every day how lucky we are to have two cats that are just like having human children of all ages at the same time, that he is okay with us not having human children, and he tries to cheer me up on days that I am down about it.

**DeBora4BobbyL** · #6 (**permalink**) 09-12-2009, 04:13 AM

The best in life are so many that it would be impossible to list. Some include marrying my DH, having grandchildren, going to college, and having such terrific friends.

The worst I will only limit to after I became an adult. It includes the current problems I am having with DD and having to raise my GKs all while trying to finish school. One other, is being so so sick in 2001 and I was new to NM. My doctor did not believe that I was sick and kept telling me it was all in my head. That was worse than being sick. I told my DH that I knew whatever "it" was, was going to kill me. Finally, after 8 months, while we were camping and I was vomiting, as usual, I became unconscious and had developed TTP (rare blood disease) as a result of being sick. I was in the hospital for a month. In fact, 8 years ago I was in ICU. I remember becoming conscious to the television on the news and showing the airplanes flying into the World Trade Center. I thought I had died and gone to Hell. It was scary to have this, but it was great knowing that it was not all in my head.

**CalGalInFla** · #7 (**permalink**) 09-15-2009, 09:15 AM

The best: my family. All of them and this includes spouse. My darling pets I have had in the past and present. My friends and my work.

The worst. Stan & Jasmine passing away from at such a young ages.

How I deal? I have a really outstanding attitude. Do I get p*ssed off at God & the universe? You bet. But in the end, my faith helps. I do try to rely on ME more than my savior. I figure he has such much bigger fish to fry than mending me.

Life's a series of train wrecks and rainbows and everything in between. You never know from one day to the next what is going to cross your path. Pour a glass of wine, laugh or cry - but in the end, I try to find the silver lining and move on!!

J~

myan · #8 (**permalink**) 10-10-2009, 04:40 AM

The absolute worse....losing the love of my life after 19 of the most wonderful years of my life! That was 7.5 yrs ago. One of my best friends told me, "YOU NEVER GET OVER IT, YOU JUST GET USE TO IT!" and she's right...I still hurt and ache for him!

**DeBora4BobbyL** · #9 (**permalink**) 10-10-2009, 04:54 AM

It seems as though some deaths are just harder to deal with than others. There are some deaths that I grieved over and was able to move on a lot easier than others, which I still cry if I think about them.

**happymomof4** · #10 (**permalink**) 10-10-2009, 08:03 AM

The best times of my life would be my marriage to my dh. Of course the birth's of my children. Buying the house that we live in and blending 2 families together to make a home. Watching all our chldren grewing up and starting lives of their own. Having 2 wonderful grandaughters.

I would say the worse things in my life were lossing my brother(he was 20) from suicide. I was 16 at the time. Watching my parents go thru that pain is something that I will never forget. Then 8 yrs ago in December by old sister's youngest son age 21. Killed himself and 3 other people in a drunk driving accident. Our family had to relieve that pain again some 20 yrs later.