Here's what we do...
We have two children (ages 8 & 5) Their birthdays are 3 monthes apart. But to save on money and still give the kids a good party, we rotate birthdays. On their odd birthdays (1, 3, 5 ect..) They get a big party. and on their even birthdays we do something small.(like going out to dinner) My kids like this idea and look forward to their odd birthdays. It's just an idea. I also do a little something for the class. (cupcakes)
I spend $200 a year total on party and gifts.
I know what's like having a large family. My husband has 7 brothers and sisters,and we have 5 nephews/ neices.
Houston-Mom