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Originally Posted by HAPPY6 Barb, Do you know what the falling out was about? I'm curious.....I couldn't imagine having all those grandchildren and not being a part of their life. I don't understand why they all have never tried to reconcile. |
I have to speak from experience here, I am estranged from my family too, and there are reasons that are a long story, but many reasons. Sometimes it just becomes time when you have to finally take up for yourself and after many therapy sessions I learned that. My parents thought when I became pregnant that my husband and I had totally done the wrong thing, they said kids were just too expensive to even have and they hated it that we were going to have kids. That should have clued me in and many things before that, but you sometimes try to just keep the peace. But like I said the time just finally came when I was able to speak up and lay down the rules and since they couldn't agree with them we parted ways. There was lots of legal issues I had to go through also because of things they had done and tried to cover their wrong doings by using me as the scapegoat to get around what they had done. Luckily I had proof and after being investigated I was found to be telling the authorities the truth so I was cleared. That ended my relationship with my family.
My sister and I keep in contact by email,but that is all as she has my mother living with her so that limits our contact.
So Kate may have a really good reason and it may be well out of her hands to reconcile. Sometimes your family makes it impossible to be a family. I'd be glad to explain more detail, but I don't think here is the proper place to do so. Hope this helps you maybe understand.