I think when we become "mothers" we become the person that our children come to with their problems, broken toys, cuts & bumps,or when they are sick...we become the person to fix and make things better.
Our job is to teach our kids how to be responsible for their rooms, homework, and their "stuff".We instill a good work ethic, and teach them to obey God's laws and respect all authorities including the Laws of Man.
Even as our children grow up, leave our home, they still to know, they have a safe, soft place to fall back on, when needed.
Just my thoughts.
Janet