It's been such a long time since I've sat down and read these great threads..........my son is home from school sick.....so I took the day off of work.........anyway...........I'm with you momof3grls!!
My 16 (almost 17--in Jan) year old daughter also has her tongue and belly button pierced. Actually, we both have our belly button's pierced. We went together. She also has a small star tattoo. I don't have a problem with it. She is such a great kid, and they can be removed. Her tattoo is in an inconspicuous (?) spot, so every one cannot see it. (It's on the back of her neck, and her hair hides it.)
Well that's my two cents!!!!