[Txchef_fran]

Okay I am tossing and turning here at midnight and finally just got up to see if anyone was up. My husband and I have been fighting ever since my 18 mo old daughter has been born. He wants me to cater to his every need, care for baby, work full time, pay everything, etc, etc, you know the drill. All while he hangs out with friends, comes home whenever he wants, do whatever he wants on his terms and only cares for baby when he HAS TO because I am working or something. I stay home with her along with caring for my neice and nephew for income along with working a profitable home based biz. He continues to say things like "we are so broke because we live off one income!" and "you chose to stay home with baby so it is your job, 24/7, 365." He has a son from a previous marriage and they do not have a great relationship (to say the least) I don't and have never believed in divorce however my goodness how long can someone take the bad mouthing, laziness, disrespectfullness, etc. Tonight we got in a fight and he left. I am not sure how much more I can take. I am thinking I would be better alone since he is already never here, never helps, and spends all our money. My problem is I DO NOT want to give my daughter to him every other weekend just for him to send her somewhere else. (He does that with step son. He has him every other weekend and when he does every time he is with his sister) IT IS SO ANNOYING! He said tonight he would never fight me for custody (DUH, because he does not want the responsibility) He wants his kids when it is convenient for him. One of his comments tonight was I was different now. I am more responsible, etc since she was born. HELLO.....I am a mother now with a tiny person depedning on ME! OF COURSE I am more repsonsible now. His idea of a perfect world is we play with her at night before bed and then on weekends she stays with family so we can party. I have no desire to do that now. Am I wrong? I understand we should have date night or movie night or whatever but everyweekend is not going to happen with this woman.

Why is it too much to ask for a man to love you and be a good Dad as well? He makes me feel like I should abandon my child so he can be happy. My daughter is everything and nothing will change that but I have plenty of love for him as well, but he wants all or nothing, he doesn't want to share.

The thought of me being without her every other weekend makes me sick knowing how he already treats his son. He gets dropped off like luggage where ever he can.