[kmarie67]

Hi.. my name is Kelley. I stumbled upon this site while searching for some advice with my 14 year old son. I have custody of him, but he now chooses to stay with his father. He is failing in school, and is not compliaint with all of my house rules. He is playing one parent against the other. Or I should say he started that way any way. Now I'm just out of the loop! I have tried to drag him home and make him stay and go by my house rules, but his father allows him to go there and do what ever he wants. Now the school is saying that we need to do something because the Dad is enabling my son to do what he wants and get away with it. I have tried for months to talk to the father but he will not respond to me. He tells our son that its not his place to be mad at him if he doesn't tell me where he is or where is going to be, but he must call and tell his father. I have spoken with the schools set up counseling and tons of things but his father will not make our son go. Nor will he communicate with me about anything. When I speak to my son and tell him that its important to have rules and stablilty he continues to feel that Dad is where he needs to be. The school now wants to get srs and health services involved. My son's counsler at school is advising me to attend a meeting with everyone involved and turn over my son to his father for full custody since my son will not come home here without running.. My ex husband allows my 14 year old to come and go as he pleases. As well as detentioins, suspensions and failing school. He still allows our son to do what he wants with no consequences, and still no communicating with me. I hear it from the school. I really don't know what I can do. Any ideas? I've done everything from setting up counseling, anger managment, meetings with school and chasing kiddoe down and making him come home. It has all fallen apart and his Dad is allowing our son to fail. Thanks for letting me talk.