[Lifestar]

OK.. First of all take this from a non-Christian perspective... Who knows if I'm missing something.. But my advice comes from a humanistic viwepoint, and would guide my behavior. Remember we don't have "wakes" in my religion.. we do our visitations after the funeral. However my DH's family, and many of my friends do hold wakes, and I have attended more than I can count. That said, I feel you should attend this one as your husbands "escort"... for lack of a better description... Because more than your presence will likely be "noticed".. Your absence will be definately be conspicuious....

It is far better to go, offer civil and sincere condolences to SIL and BIL on the loss of someone truly dear to them, and just be there for your DH as he provides whatever comforthe needs to offer his DS.

I think You'll be glad you did it in the long run..


Val